[ThatGirl109]

A few months ago, I stopped cutting, but mostly since we were doing swimming in gym class and I didn't want to be reported to the counselor blahblahblah. Anyway, I have the urges to cut again. It's just that the pain hurt takes away the memory hurt, and I just want the sorrow to go away. I know this isn't healthy, but are there any other ways beside cutting to forget how alone you are?

[i dont matter]

look into DBTselfhelp.com

Hope it helps

[atomicc]

There are many coping strategies to avoid cutting. Perhaps draw on yourself in the area where you would normally cut? Some people make red lines, to simulate cutting, and others make pretty pictures.
I think it would be wise if you went to see the counselor at school. They can be very helpful

[Frankbtl]

Hi ThatGirl, first of all well done on stopping the cutting!!! It's not at all unusual for urges to linger/come back but you've been doing really well if you can try to hang in there just a bit longer........and just a bit longer......as long as you can......sometimes the more time passes without the easier it can get............maybe not quickly, but in time..........
Now you said that you'd mostly stopped because of the swimming in gym but was there anything else that helped you with that? Any strategies you used e.g. distraction............if you can "plant them in the dead center of your mind" and focus, focus, focus on them............and you might even want to find something different to add to those coping skills. There are so many to choose from and if one, five, ten, twenty..........don't really help, don't give up, it doesn't have to mean that you're at fault or that the urges can't be beaten. I mean look at how far you have got already!!!
And it feels like there's a little more than the urges going on......or triggering them..............with the memories...........???
Have you got any support with where those memories are coming from or do you think that you could find support from someone with that??
And although I know you don't want to be reported to the counselor, maybe you could let them in just a little on what's going on for you, it might be a scary thought but they are there to help, and they should have some experience in supporting you with what you're going through. Perhaps let them in just a little to start with???
And of course you know, that we're here too if you want to share some of it..........like you're saying (??) it can be really hard being/feeling all alone when things are hard, but just know that you don't have to be/you're not alone in this..........any time you want to talk we're here.

Alison

[ThatGirl109]

Thank you so much, Alison. They aren't so really memories as much as they are feelings that I'm alone and that I'm worthless. I'll take your advice into consideration and try to see a counselor...

[Frankbtl]

Hi ThatGirl, the feeling of being worthless can be made worse when it feels like no-one understands, sees what's going on for you, takes the time to really "get it", "can be bothered" to reach out to you like you were maybe kind of feeling in your other thread???? But of course there can be reasons for that.............and that doesn't mean that others (if not completely you) aren't really valuing you, caring for/about you.
And besides depression, like you seem to be feeling, can so easily tell you that you're worthless anyway............doesn't make it true though!!!
Just like it can make you feel really isolated, apart from everyone and everything around you, and alone.............but for 1. you've got us!!! so you're not alone!!! and for 2. with some real help/support the depression can lift given time.
So you're not worthless, if you take just a closer look at some of the things you've done, you've experienced, you've achieved I'm sure there is going to be just something/s in there that the depression has been masking. It always masks something/s!!
And, you're not alone
Alison