[TheWell]

Fell of the SH bandwagon today. I have so many scars it's not even funny. Sometimes I really wonder if quitting is really possible.

[HowDoYouFeelMeow?]

The only thing that helps me control it is to be accountable to someone I love. I can't be accountable to myself because I don't care about myself. I love my T, though, more than anyone. I told my T that if she asked me to promise not to hurt myself before talking to her, I could probably do so because the absolute value of feeling bad because of breaking a promise to her is greater than the absolute value of relief gained by SH. Maybe you could find someone to do this with? Good luck.... It totally sucks and is mega hard to control. You are not alone.

[Fuzzybear]

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

It is possible.

I repeat, stopping is possible.

I'm around 4-5 years free. You can do it, too! I've been living breathing proof. There are many people who've overcome it. I'm not saying I never get urges, that the scars and memories don't sometimes haunt me, but it's how I deal with those urges that counts. I know better, now. My eyes are open.

Honestly, if there were something I could have done differently, it would've been to stop focusing so damn much on SH. For me, it was SH this and SH that. I talked to people about SH for ages, almost every day. It was tiring and only served to constantly remind me and keep SH in the foreground which made it hard as all balls to quit! Do yourself a favor and take a break from the topic, once in a while. Otherwise it's like trying to get over an ex you hang out with 24/7. x_x

Lastly, take care of your body. You only get one.

[ThisWayOut]

how are you doing this week? (hugs)

[ifst5]

Is complete recovery always an obtainable goal? I wouldn't have thought so when it comes to addiction...

To be honest i think our expectations can be rather unfair on ourselves - sometimes our lives are full of ongoing issues that are not easily resolvable and can't always be dealt with through the most positive means.

I'd be happy if i simply self harmed less and used other means to supplement my coping. Less of a dependency is better than full dependency. Eventually when you find something that really works for you, you might find that you're better able to wean yourself off of self harm near enough completely (though of course it may be unrealistic to rule out any one off future incidences).

Keep your attention on what's driving you to do this in the first place - the self harm is simply an indicator that something else needs dealing with. Don't give it too much power or control over you - it's merely a factor, not the sole cause.

I hope you feel better soon.

[tealBumblebee]

I don't think it's easy or will happen over night but I do think it's possible.

[Idiot17]

If one really want to I think it's possible. The question though is does one want to.