Someone called me a faker

I was sharing some of my thoughts about self-harm, and someone just straight out called me a faker.

I've struggled with mild dissociation for years, making me feel like my cuts aren't real, like they're actually just scratches and so on... Making me cut deeper and deeper, just to actually feel a bit connected to my body, just to feel like a human being again.

And then she says I'm a faker, just because she disagreed with some of my thoughts. She probably feels like she's done something good, pointed out the faker, but she really hasn't. I'm super triggered and sad right now, I feel so invalidated and alone. I know my cuts are real, I know I've been self-harming for many years, but I'm starting to dissociate again and I'm starting to question my whole life... maybe my cuts aren't actually real? Maybe this was all just in my head? All the times I visited the doctor and got stitches, maybe they didn't actually give me stitches, maybe they just looked weird at me and sent me home?

I know it's all real... but I feel so scared and alone and TRAPPED... trapped in a bad dream, and I can't wake up.

Sounds like your cuts are real, because you got stitches,

Why did she call you a faker and what was the context?

Sometimes, people say mean words to us because they simply don't understand. Please don't punish yourself because of their misunderstanding. You deserve a better support and if you haven’t found it yet from others, then support yourself. Be kind to yourself because you are precious. Mean while, I believe some good people here will be happy to listen to your story. Take care Kildesortering

Kildersortering,

I'm so sorry your friend let you down with such an insensitive (and untrue) comment.
People here know how it is to feel trapped. We care and we want you to feel supported.

How are you now? I hope you found people who understand you here.

12PM is right, you are a human being and therefore as precious as anyone else on this planet. Be kind to yourself as best you can, you REALLY DO DESERVE IT.

Sending hugs

People are mean when they're scared. Don't let this person affect you.

They call you a faker if you're not doing it for the "right" reasons, if your injuries aren't severe enough, etc. I've heard it all before, I've had those accusations thrown at me and it really does hurt.

It tends to be the younger crowd who use SI as a lifestyle who throw around such statements. That is, you don't hear these things so much from older people who SI. We've been down that road and know it's not some exclusive club wchich we must find ways to kick others out of.

Thank you everyone<3

Nobody called me a faker ever, but sometimes i wonder myself if i am one too.
sorry some people talk without thinking about the effect of their words. they sure have problems themselves if they need to minimize your pain. dont let them make you feel invalidated. it can happen, but you dont need anybody else validation for your pain. it is real.

Some ppl think SI ppl are 'fake' if they put their injuries in plain sight... bcuz they think ppl that leave marks out in the open are just 'attention seekers', and NOT doing it for the more 'legit' reasons ppl self harm. However, it's pretty hard to hide marks in most cases.