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I find that when I'm drinking I get the urge to cut more. Can anyone relate? Do I really have to give up drinking if I get the urge to cut?
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#2
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Hey sorry you are dealing with this. Yes, I find that alcohol increases the likelihood that I will cut or burn myself.
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I find that the urge is already there before I start drinking, but am probably more likely to act on it than if I stayed sober. I'm not really in a position where I am actually trying to quit so if I get the urge to cut sometimes I drink just to make sure I do...
Yeah I probably need to stop drinking to get in control of this..I don't know if you do too. It depends if you can control the urge and not act on it when you have been drinking..
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Hi TaintedLove
Wow, alcohol can definately decrease "inhibitions" and also act as a depressant, so bad combination if the urges are already there........ ![]() It will depend on how it effects you personally though, perhaps reflect on your feelings........and actions.......after drinking. It might be that one, two, three drinks are fine at those times but any more than that........not good.........so maybe about limiting it depending on how you're feeling. It might be that some different alcoholic drinks don't effect you in that way as much, so perhaps try something else......... Or maybe schedule when you might have a drink/few drinks to a day that you know might be better e.g. you aren't going to be facing as many triggers on that day.......that's if you have any days like that........ So, yes, giving up drinking at those times would be great considering.........but just some thoughts on whether you really have to there...........don't know whether they may help or not but............ ![]() Alison |
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I think, JMO, that I would give up anything that would cause, or cause me to cut.
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I think that sometimes I'm Having urges and I drink just so I have an excuse as to why I cut like-well I was drunk...
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Hi TaintedLove
So sometimes it's the urges leading to the drinking, leading to.......... So do you think maybe exchanging each drink you would have had with a coping mechanism, or a variety of coping mechanisms?? So you're not going to be telling yourself "I can't.......", you're going to be telling yourself "Instead, I'm going to..........". Whether that's going to be taking a walk, listening to music, watching a film, talking to us on here.........whatever may help a little............leading onto sleep, you would have had anyway. And if the urges are real bad.........they deserve/need expression/you deserve expression you know.........no excuses needed there.......but before they get to the point of expression via SI lets aim for some safer/less harmful expression, hey?? ![]() Maybe by talking about anything behind them, if there is anything, maybe by writing "stuff" down, maybe by looking for/using some sort of safe "comfort".........perhaps things like that could even help you build up your coping resources??? And, it does sound like you can sometimes hold off the SI until you have the "excuse" of drinking...........so that definately sounds like you have some real strength there, and that is strength you can really use ![]() Alison |
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This happens to me as well...After drinking it's sometimes so obvious that I need to cut. But for now I need to do it still, I know it's not good but I need it. I can talk my brain out but I still need it, because I can't cope right now and don't want others to convince me to not do it and when I stop they will be very content and don't care that I suffer more than if I'd be still cutting. The drinking part is something I don't enjy though, and I'm trying to reduce that.
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