[elmarko]

hey, im going to magaluf with my family and a few friends at the end of the month and my family are not aware of my self harm, i have not cut in over a month now but still my arms are a right mess with scarring from the past few years, parents dont know about my self harm but my friends do. i dont know how i am going to avoide my parents seeing my arms for the week. has anyone been in this situation before and what did they do about it to get thru the holiday? the last thing i want is for my parents to be worried all week over some stuff i have done as far as 2 yars back.

[Zenobia]

Maybe you should talk to your parents now about what has been happening with you. I know it is hard to tell parents about such things. Heck, I didn't tell my mom and dad until i ended up in the hospital with severe depression and symbols carved into my hand. Couldn't quite avoid it anymore at that point. I was 32 at the time.

But as a mother, my daughter is 14 now, I would truely like to know if she started in with this behavior because I know that we can be helped. I would be worried and I probably would get a wee bit freaky and teary eyed but I would be glad she told me. Finding out on holiday, however, would totally suck and make it more difficult to respond appropriately. Parents try to act smart and grown up around our kids but we are just as lost as anyone.
carrie

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[Fuzzybear]

Good luck... hope you have a great time and it all works out. I used to have very severe eczema and kept my arms covered up all the time .I realise now that the way I scratched my arms,face and everywhere else was a form of self harm ..... different I know but maybe you could make up some story? Sorry not to be of more use

Hugs,
Fuzzy

[blackdragon]

Oh yeah i had that happen. I used water proof makup like the skin colored creams and stuff. But thats not a garenteed cover. Best thing is to talk to your parents. Or if your scared like i was, try a bandaid on the site (if its liike a small patch) or makeup, or tattoos that last for a couple days. That can cover some. But get the black or red tattoos. like a big rose or something.

[Rapunzel]

I don´t know if your parents are like mine, but a few years ago I went for my sister´s wedding with scabs all over my arm. I had not seen my family in a few years. My father asked what happened to my arm and I just said, "don´t worry about it." He didn´t, and has never said anything again. He is wierd though.

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