[me05]

I actually told somebody else that I SI. A lady that I work with who I love dearly I wrote her a note and I told her not to read it until later. She called me that night and we are having lunch Tuesday. I had to tell somebody. I have been getting so many urges and I feel like I am in hell right now. She said that she would never tell anybody which makes me feel soo good. When my counselor found out a couple years ago my parents did nothing which made me want to do it more. The only thing is I really don't know what to say to her when we talk. I normally don't talk about how I feel at all to anybody. I just want to feel better. Any suggestions?

[Christina86]

((((((((me05))))))))))) that's usually the hardest part, reaching out. Good for you!

Did she happen to give away any signs about how she's taken it? If she's taken it well, that's a good thing. Some people may not though.

Here's a good site that might help: http://self-injury.net/stopping/talking/

If she wants to know more information about self-injury, you might want to recommend some books on the subject, rather than her asking you a million questions which you might not have answers to, or might not feel that comfortable answering.

There are a couple of really good books that people have left reviews for on PC, under "Ratings". You should check it out.

Hope that helps.

[Kiya]

Yay for you for telling someone, confiding in someone, and reaching out!

Just don't stress over it (i know, easier said than done, heh) and I am sure she will ask some questions. You can either answer her openly, or tell her you have boundaries (if you do or want to come up with some) on what info you will give her. She may ask how to better support you... helps me to have answers like those already thought out. =)

Kiya

[bipolar_bear]

How brave of you to reach out. That is wonderful. I would guess that she will have questions and you may want to think ahead of time of what you do and do not want to share. That way you won't be scrambling trying to think as you go. I am happy that you have taken the first step.

BB

[Behindthemoon]

i think the best talkers for you would be psychologists or someone who has had that kind of experience before(it would be better if he has a success story of recovering from it ).

[x_BabyG_x]

aww, well done, I can see how much of a step this is for you, I have also experienced this before! Times when you are in such desperation where u feel you need to tell someone, but when it comes to it you feel you cant talk about it... all I can say to you is, just relax, try to open up and just remember that you trust the person. You'll probably struggle at first, but it will get easier

goodluck, babyg xXx