he shouted at me

I mentioned my SI to my fella last night... well, all I said was 'oh there was this woman who came into work.... I can't believe there are so many people out there with problems with it and we barely notice...'

and he FLIPPED.

He dropped me off and left me crying in the street. I know it upsets him, but I havent hardly spoke about it before and Im only quitting because it hurts him when i do it, Ive been doing so good and Id at least like a bit of praise off him at least. Im trying so hard, and whats it worth when he doesnt even notice.

He really upset me, he made me feel like he just doesnt care what Im doing for him, shouting at me and making me feel embarrsed and ashamed that I have a problem with it. It makes you realised you are really alone in this...

He's apologised and stuff. But I still dont think that he realises how hard it is, and how important it is for me to have someone to talk to, and not be out to shame when I let my innermost feelings out and when I share my secrets. I felt that dirty last night that I really really badly needed to do it.

I know its just because it upsets him though. I know he didnt mean to upset me even more. But I just wish I mad someone to talk to about it properly without people blaming me or shouting at me or freaking out

HIS inability to handle it is not YOUR problem. In fact, it sounds like he could use a T worse than most of any of us.

I don't have any good suggestions for making people who don't get it suddenly see the light, but I guess just say "you know, when I feel that bad, i really need support,not shame" and see what happens. Sometimes people don't realize how they come across.

((((((( BabyG )))))))))

sorry you are having a tough time with your bf. i noticed in your profile you are 18. so i'm guessing he's around that age. it's time he understood what being in a relationship is about. he needs to be there for you. just as you need to be there for him.

both of you need to talk. perhaps he had a bad day and just couldn't handle "that" conversation on the spur of the moment. you both should plan to sit down and discuss where you are at with everything.

also, you need to stop the SI for yourself not for anyone else. you are important enough to stop doing that for.

take care. hope things work out ok for the both of you!!!

=( That's terrible! *Big hugs with a soft warm blanket!!*

If i'd a been there, I'da give dat boy a talkin to! Treating anyone like that, let alone you!!!

=( Hope things can get better!

i am sorry he treated you so badly... you don't deserve to be disrespected like that... he might not like the fact that you si... but that doesn't make it ok for him to behave so abusively... sounds like he has some of his issues that need looking at... please stay safe... and keep doing the hard work... but maybe do it for yourself ... not him...Lyn

Thanks guys,

My boyfriend is 22,not 18, and I have to say, is is quite mature for his age at the best of times.

I just dont think he realised ho wmuch it actually upset me

babyg xXx

hi BabyG

i hope what i said didn't upset or annoy you. when i mentioned age i was only trying to make the point that you both are old enough to do the hard stuff to make your relationship work.

you need to sit down and talk about this with him. he needs to know how much this upset you. you deserve a supportive boyfriend not someone who makes you feel worse than you already do.

i hope everything works out!

Sorry, blue, of course I didnt get offended by it!

I had a bit of a chat about him with it...

The other day we was in the trafford shopping centre in manchester and we wondered into H samuels (a jewellers in case u dnt know).

He knows Im mad about jewellery. I pointed out this bracelet which was absolutely stunning, quite expensive and it has white and pink diamonds on it. It was stunning and I couldnt keep my eyes off it. I said that it was too beautiful for my arms though, as they are full of faded scars.

The day after he shouted at me, he went shopping with his mate, and told me he got a present for me. He suprised me with it last night, made me shut my eyes and everything, and went 'this is because I am proud of you...' and when I asked what he was proud of me for, he said, 'for really trying, and not giving in...'

He put on the same bracelet that I picked out and placed it around my wrist.

Im not really into presents and things, and I dont like him spending money on me to prove his love, because I know he already loves me sooo much and little things he does proves it everyday.

So now I have that beautiful bracelet to make my arms look less ugly now, and I have something to remind me that he does actually care and to remind me to never give in

babyg xXx