My T wants me to tell

My T wants me to tell my friend about my cutting b/c my friend noticed my scars. IS SHE CRAZY? What I mean is that she has no idea of how others will think about that. She doesnt even know my friend. Don't you think its wrong to encourage ppl to tell something that is this hard to understand to regular ppl. Not that regular ppl can't understand, but i feel like I would be setting myself up for failure and rejection if i told her.

i think that is a little extreme, since she doesnt know your friend how does she know how she will react>? if you want to tell your friend you shouyld tell her when you know you wi;ll be acceptedc and understood, not because you t think s it is good that you tell.

EV, I agree with Silver. I also have another reply that I wrote on another thread I would like to share with you... let me find it./..

Actually I found it and it was a reply to your thread when your friend saw the scars!!! So you would have already seen it! Oops!

My personal opinion is that cutting is about as personal as it gets and should NEVER be shared if you don't feel good about it. But if you do have the desire to have your friend understand, sometimes it is worth the risk.

My old pdoc used to tell me to not worry about people seeing my scars and to stop being "secretive." I thought he was out of line. On the other hand, I have been very open at times because I'm not sure I want to be friends with someone who would reject me because of SI.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

-apislily

how does your friend take "other" such information... from you or others? That might be an indicator as to whether or not the reaction to your disclosure would be understood... I agree with the others... don't share unless you wish.

The only thing that important that I've told her is that i was in counseling. I didn't say why though. Overall, I'm just not comfortable talking about it with her. I explained this to my counselor again yesterday. I told her it was because I don't have alternative friends to depend on if this one goes bad. Maybe some day in the future.