possible alternative to cutting

I was just reading in a book call New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder that it can be very helpful to use an icecube against the wrist instead of cutting. Apparently the icecube is cold enough to sort of hurt thus producing the feeling of relief but not so cold that it causes long term damage. It of course is just a stop gap method until one develops better coping strategies and skills.
Carrie

<font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos

Ive tried that and It did not work for me.....As I dont do It for the pain......Its kind of hard to explain.......

I don't either. Just doing something to feel pain, which leaves no mark, never has appealed to me. Everyone is different though. I don't mind physical pain that doesn't hang around forever (like a toothache, although I had a toothache for a few months last winter before I would do anything about it and I did miss that after it was gone too. hmm). I don't know. I don't like cold at all though. Maybe that's why I wouldn't want to do that?

I think that if you can figure out why you SI you have a better chance of finding a better coping method. For me it's usually about communication, or validating (or at least demonstrating) my feelings - proving that they are real. So I guess that talking to somebody would probably be the thing to do, but that's so hard.

<font color=purple>"You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try."</font color=purple>

I can understand the desire to actually leave a mark. Much of the si I do doesn't leave marks, it is just a way to get through the moment and once the moment is gone I don't need the reminder. There are some times however when things get a bit more intense. Those are the times that I do leave marking and find that just looking at the mark is enough to calm me down.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson