My Masturbation Story

I'm a single male 19 years old ! i've been addicted to masturbation for 6 years. I've been lying to my self all this time that anything is Ok! but i was feeling guilty and so lonely. no girlfriend no friends just living a lonely life and pretending that everything's ok. i masturbate once in three days some times everyday! i read many posts and i've seen many ways to overcame this addiction but every time i tried i failed. I'm not very social i spend the most of my time watching Japanese manga hoping that i can fight and beat my addiction.
this is the first time i'm sharing my story i hope i can get help from someone !
Sorry for my bad English.

Welcome to PsychCentral, TheWindOfChange

Masturbation is something to be ashamed of it is part of being human. As you get older you will slow down some; however it is also good for your health to as it helps to remove semen build-up. However if you really feel that you want to break away from it have you tried an accountability partner? This is a person that checks in on you from time to time to see how you are doing. This helps to keep you from masturbating if you don't want to say that you did. Of course it is not a full proof system.

Best wishes

Thank you ! i'll try to have an accountability partner. That's a good idea u know i feel better after you replied ! Thanks again!

If you need someone to talk to I'm here for you!
I masturbated too and, then when I got a boyfriend I was able to stop and, now ever since I've been relapsing into it.

There are a lot lonely people like you, maybe if you get a boyfriend/girlfriend you may be able to overcome this. TRUST ME real sex feels better than masturbation! Lot's of people are lonely maybe, you could find a partner who likes Japanese manga.

Thank u Celifrog . i'll try to be social even if i'm not my loneliness is killing me inside :/ but i'll do my best!

I don't think masterbating once every three days or even once a day is an addiction. I don't think its addiction until it causes you problems. Are you hurting yourself masterbating but doing it anyway? Are you not doing activities you want to do instead staying home to masterbate? If you are canceling plans so you can stay home and masterbate then you ight have a problem.

Honestly I don't think even masterbating every day is a problem. It makes you feel good and relieves stress and tension.

Hi

There is nothing with masturbating unless it is causing you problems in your life. It is perfectly natural and the frequency you speak of is totally normal.

What you should be focusing on is your loneliness. What issues keep you from meeting or being with other people? If you are happy to be alone than fine, I also sometimes like solitude but not if for unhealthy reasons.

I do it more than once a day . I've had sex already but that doesn't seem to help for me .

I don't know what to think. I have many other problems that don't make me a suitable boyfriend/husband, so I remove myself from the dating scene. I am scared it lowers sperm count or makes me infertile, but then again, I'm not really planning to have children, since I'm not planning to marry a woman, since I'm not good boyfriend/husband material. I'm confused .

Despite all the wonderfully positive responses here, I can tell you that masturbation is very unhealthy, especially for men.

And if you're doing it every day then I would say it is an addiction. Also the biggest myth is that you need to masturbate to release old sperm. That sperm simply reabsorbs back into the body.

Can you explain why it is unhealthy?

I can, though I expect it to be scoffed at. But I can tell you that when a man ejaculates he gives out loads of minerals which can take between a week to three weeks to replace. He also gives away brain and spinal fluid, and too much ejaculation will make a man anxious and depressed.

A man loses lots of zinc in semen, that zinc is needed for the prostate and too much could also lead to hair loss. I say this, because I personally have cut down and have noticed the mental clarity and physical changes in terms of fitness.

It's actually the ejaculation that's the problem, not the masturbating.

Can you state exactly how much is too much before it has negative effects? Surely these things are not harmful in small doses?

Can you give links to back up your claims?

Zinc has links to testosterone levels in men, so losing a lot of Zn makes testosterone less available to do it's job, it's almost like it's bounded. Your free levels are lower and this has an effect on many things in men. Often when you want to increase your testosterone levels, they will give you a Zn supplement.

But how much would a guy have to masturbate before it has an effect?

So going by some of what has been said, it is also unhealthy for a man to have sex?

It may be true re the zinc but what I am asking is, when does it become a problem?

From a purely interested point of view, would zinc supplements/healthy diet cancel this problem out?

The last line made me smile slightly as speaking purely for myself (just on the off chance I get some bemused correction that some guys derive pleasure of the erection but no outcome... which in terms of the snip or some other medical reason I could understand)... masturbating without any intent to ejaculate kind of defeats the object does it not?

I think masturbation it's normal when u do it once in month or when u wanna do it!
but my situation is not normal 'coz i can't even spend a week without masturbating ! i'm out of control that what it makes it abnormal. i'm trying to free my self from it! i wanna be normal ! to do what i want when i want it!!
thanks everyone for replying anyone gotta a point! ! your blessings are a source of a great inspiration for me ^^!

When a man has (unprotected ) sex, his penis absorbs fluids from the vagina, which contain zinc. So it's not as bad, but if he's using a condom then he is harming himself just as badly as if he was jerking off every day.

It isn't just zinc, there's many other amino acids. The sperm itself has to made from the body and blood. And I agree that masturbation without ejaculation is just unlikely, so therefore masturbation should be limited.

And it is possible for a man to have sex and not ejaculate. Dry orgasms.

Masturbation is great. I have sex with my partner of three years and still masturbate. Like the users above have said, it is only an addiction when it interferes with your life. From what you have described, I highly doubt you have an addiction.

lol at masturbation addiction. Seriously though, you can't be a masturbation addict for jerking off every now and then. That's absurd. Your just sexually repressed and feel guilty about it which is normal for some guys. I went through a bit of a phase like that myself, but trust me jerking off is normal and no one doesn't do it. Many guys do it even more than your saying. Once out of every three days is not much at all honestly. A lot of guys could never go that long without beating it

That would be me, LOL

Well, look at it this way mate. At least you are not humping your bed. I have heard some odd stories about men doing that and they use pillows for extra comfort and plastic sheets for their pictures so they don’t get ink on their face when they are kissing and licking them.

Hmmm, so that is why men go bald? Too much lowers zinc and can cause hair loss? Hmm, lots of bald guys out there, must be a common challenge.

I read that men are at the height of sexuality at ages 18 and 19, so with that I would see them getting exited a lot at this age and releaving themselves as needed. Maybe someone ought to invent a creme with the chemicals and zinc present they can aborb as they would by natural intercourse.

You sound normal to me man. I would think doing it only once a month is abnormal. Once a week is even abnormal imo.

No that's partly it. It's also partly genetic, but those guys who had a family history of male pattern baldness, some have said when they cut back on masturbation their hair stopped falling out and even grew back a bit thicker. Now that's just opinions on the internet. But I've done my own personal research in regards to masturbation and abstinence from ejaculation. I know I feel a lot better when I don't do it.