whats wrong with being a lesbian

i just came out.everyone acts like its big problem whats wrong

Hi Snowyday09,
if it's your family who acting like that, perhaps they just need some time to get used to it. By brother(since passed) was gay and when I found out, I was surprised but quickly accepted it. I know many family members need time to accept that their child/sister/brother may never have the quote 'typical family' (husband,wife with 2 kids). They have to learn to let go of what they thought would happen and accept what may happen in your life. Give them time and hopefully they'll come around and accept you unconditionally. Best of luck.

Hi Snowyday. Or Osiyo! Don't feel bad I think its just from the area you live in. You know the culture there and the religion factor makes people overly prude. I grew up in nearby town to where you have listed. Actually I have kin from your area, so it might be cool to talk if you feel up to PM'ing. I'll be on later tonight more. But anyway I grew up near there and the prejudice was unbearable even among strangers at work who were always demanding an answer to why I wasn't married nor had kids yet. I couldn't bring myself to say because I hadn't found the right WOMAN yet. lol Heck where I used to work back there they fired this young girl for being openly gay. I moved out West because I had enough of all that crap. Now I have two lives openly lesbian out here and closeted back home. If you can find a Unitarian Universalist church anywhere nearby they always have GLBT and most of the straights there are accepting and nice to lesbians.

absolutly nothing.

change is hard for people.

are you comfortable with it? maybe it took you a little time to come to terms with it. hopefully everyone will make peace with it....until then...be accepting of them as they are accepting with you.

i am very confortable with it

absolutelly nothing, imo. You are who you are. I'm sorry ppl around you find it hard to accept it

You will find acceptance here.

Congratulations on accepting yourself! BTDT!

Others will come around on their own time schedule. Some may never come around, but that will be there own stupidity and loss. Allow them to have their own pace.

It does help to live where being gay or lesbian is just part of the make up of the neighborhood. Or at least visit nearby areas that have a large GLBT population to get a sense of community.

thanks notzs you help me understand alot

(((Snowyday09))) I'm sorry that you're not getting the acceptance you need. I do not understand the hate and discontent. As a parent of a gay child my main concern is my son's health and safety. I worry about the twisted people in this world that hate him because he happens to be attracted to boys rather than girls.

Absoultely nothing wrong with being a lesbian if that is who your are!!! Congratulations on finding your true self!!!! So many of us struggle with that....even aside from sexual orientation!!! I think it is wonderful that you have found this piece of yourself!!! Really...again congratulations on finding yourself and being true to that!!!! AWESOME!!!!!

thanks everyone it means alot

There is nothing wrong with it - no more than there is with a white person and a black person falling in love and having kids... but our society likes life and people to be a certain way and they will make a fuse it things go differently than they think they should be / want them to be.

Hang in There... ((( HUGS )))

Well done on coming out. I know how hard it can be. There is nothing wrong with you being a lesbian. As long as you are happy with who you are, other people whould accept that xx

See Snowyday, there's lots of acceptance here! Focus on you.

Absolutely nothing. I'm so sorry people aren't as excepting as you need right now. I understand. When I came out all my family (except for my younger brother who was gay) freaked and didn't understand. Maybe in time they will except and perhaps understand. My family did.
If it is friends who are not excepting perhaps you need to find a new group of friends.

its actually bith family and friends that arent

Mine weren't either when I came all the way out. It took time for them to become adjusted, witness me as me, and come to feel and participate in my life. Some came along quickly, some slowly. One of my sisters still has problems but she's a bit of a butt hole anyway.

Someone told me once that it took my whole lifetime (at age 23) to come to terms with my sexual orientation, why would I expect everyone else to be totally comfortable overnight? Especially family!

Since then, I try to be gentle with them and be a guide and teacher. After all, it's foreign to them. I politely insist upon honest and respectful discussion. Learning how to do that can be done. To thine own self be true.

Perhaps they're still in shock, was it a surprise? How long has it been?

There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian or gay or bi or straight or trans or what ever other thing we can add to the list. Someday the entire world will understand this and our children or grandchildren will have a better life because we chose to come out and show the world that we as "gay people" are just people with the same fears and desires and feelings as everybody else.

Be true to you and you will likely find many people who love and support you no matter what. You will find some who won't but in reality they were never really "there for you" anyway then and their leaving is a small loss in your life.

to some people it is wrong and you have to realize that, yeah you might have the right to be gay or bisexual or whatever but a lot of people see it as immorally wrong and as a sin and its best to be careful. not ever one agrees with a right or law etc. you can still be happy with out making you life choice public t everyone especially if they don't need to know really it non of their business. I wish you good luck in making the right choices.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a lesbian. I think its a great thing. You know who you are. People are just afraid of different things and change. Overtime others wont worry about it. Since its new they just dont know how to react i think. Also religion and family do play a part in how people react. Some religions see it as a sin while others dont mind it. It just depends on individuals. I came out a while ago and dated a friend of mine. Im bisexual. At first people were shocked and it caused quite a stir but now everyones totally cool with it. For now you must give it time theyll get over it and realize they were freaking out for no reason at all and they might even feel silly afterwards.

Hope this helps

Yes, I just replied to someone that I have always been attracted to women, but because the bible says 'No many shall lay with another...
I make myself stop looking, and hoping.

Star,

You're such a sweet soul! I wish for you all the happiness God can give you. I wish you all the happiness God gave you the ability to enjoy!

Nothing is wrong with being a lesbian! You are who you are!!

Well there is nothing wrong with you.

I'm basically a lesbian still consider myself a bi-sexual, but at the moment I'm only interested in women, but have had experiences with men in the past.

The problem is with the people who are not willing to accept you as you are.

What do you think your parents would think?

My parents would both like me to "switch teams" and go back to dating men, but the accept me dating women. Well my father is tolerant of the situation, my mom is more accepting.

Take care it will work out