No sexual desire

Hey..another weird thing that happens to me..

Ok, I must admit that the whole sexual act between a man and a woman seems really horrible, humiliating and yucky to me. I never had sexual relationship with anyone. when I was with my boyfriend and we were both aroused, I did think for a minute that I might give it a try, but I didnt, I was scared. when I masturbate, I wish I was with a guy so I could have my first time, but then when its over, I dont even think about that again.

When I see porn, I get butterflies in my stomach. When I see lesbian stuff, I find it disgusting, and the same with man with man.

I don't know what I am....bi....gay.....straigth....but I just dont feel like having sex with anyone...

If it weren't for your having a sex drive (since you said you got aroused and you masturbate, that suggests you have desire), I'd say you were asexual. You might still be classified as such; I don't know if asexuals have a sex drive at all. But it sounds like you have issues regarding the act of sex, and you might want to talk to a T about it.

Asexual sounds like amoeba!

There are people who identify as asexual. They have groups where they find partners who aren't interested in having sex (other asexuals), and they are happy with that.

hi. well, you said you get aroused with your boyfriend but seem afraid to give it a try. when you find the right boyfriend and believe the time is right, suggest you give it a try. do everything you can to make it a positive experience and make sure it's safe. the first time can be awkward and your boyfriend needs to be caring, patient and understanding. With some positive experiences you should be better able to answer your questions. where do your beliefs that sexuality is yucky, horrible and humiliating come from? who taught you them? i don't think that anyone learns much about sexuality from porn. porn is staged sex for impersonal entertainment. when you have sex, seek deeper companionship as well as enjoyment with a special person. give it some time and be patient with yourself, sometimes it takes a while to get the hang of it and to find the right person! Focus on meeting your emotional needs, not what it looks like!

I agree. I think that your nervous cause it would be the first time. But also maybe because you aren't at that comfort level with your boyfriend. If you aren't comfortable having sex with your boyfriend and he cares about you, then he would wait as well. If you are uncomfortable having sex (especially for the first time), chances are you might dread it for awhile after.