Confused

I am a heterosexual female and have never been attracted to girls sexually. I met this girl the other day on a trip, and I've been having strange feelings. I don't tend to make eye contact with people well, but we made eye contact and something happened. It's like there was an immediate connection and a tremendous amount of chemistry..even she said so. I had thoughts that i could totally passionately make-out with this girl and it would be OK, even though i just don't like girls that way. What's going on with me. This has never happened before and i don't quite know what to make of it?

I'm not sure, but this could always be one of those one time things where you find that one person of the same gender who you are attracted to. A lot of my friends have that one 'I would totally go gay/straight for [insert-person-here]' and you might have found that person for yourself. That or you might have hit a point where your finding that yes, indeed, you do find yourself attracted to girls as well as guys.

I think this topic is extremely important and would be a great idea to share this with your therapist. I think our sexual orientation is a very important part of who we are. Personally I liked the way you described how you felt about your friend and vice versa. I hope you get some good feedback here as well.

You don't have to make sense out of everything in your life.

People are unique, and it isn't strange that if you meet someone new you might have a reaction that you have never had before. Nothing wrong with that.

Don't force yourself to do something just becasue you have a new feeling, but don't run away from new experiences just because they are a bit confusing.

Ok that didn't make the most sense, but I hope you get my point.

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Actually Mike I know exactly what you're saying. it's oaky to have these feelings and don't feel worried. Like Mike said you don't have to reject or act on the feelings. You'll know what to do when the time is right.

I think you summed this up a lot better than I did in my post.

What I'm wondering is this: while I consider myself completely straight (when I'm sober), I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with falling in love with a girl, because you can't help who you fall in love with. I not only think this about my LGBTI friends, but also about myself; if I were to fall for a girl, I would not automatically dismiss it or "force" myself to get over it, like some people might. I'd just let it play out. My question is, do you feel this way, or do you think (or have you thought previously) that you wouldn't be able to be in love with a girl?

If your answer is no, that you would be okay with being bi/gay (if that's how you felt towards a person), then I say just let it happen. I've heard several people say that "I'd go gay/straight for so-and-so...", and that is the ONLY person they feel that way for. Human emotions are incredibly complex, and there's NOTHING wrong with being LGBTI, no matter what people say. How can people ever say that true love is wrong???

Sorry for the long post

I have this theory that only very few people (around 2%) are purely homosexual or heterosexual. The rest falls in between are more or less bisexual. However most people accepts the norm of heterosexuality and they hardly ever question it when they happen to find someone of the same sex attractive.

So your feelings are perfectly okay.

VenusHalley, I think that only applies to females. I couldn't kiss another guy even if he was my dad!!!

I've had the exact same situation. And maybe it is easier for women, because we tend to be more emotional and can sometimes find that with being in a straight relationship that level of intense emotion does not exist. My once ever gay relationship was the most intense ever. I never thought I was gay/bi but I just connected on a different level with this woman. I treid to commit suicide when it ended, as the euphoria that came with the relationship was over.

It is very intense being with another woman; even my therapist agreed. The emotions are on a differnet level. It can be rewarding and tiring at the same time.