[Nemo39122]

Last night I was on facebook to see if anyone I know from my karate school has a profile, and I accidentally found out my (sort of) friend is gay. Has this ever happened to anyone? lol

Just so you know it's completely ok with me (I kinda already guessed it anyway). I've been considering sending her a friend request (since before I found out) I just don't want her to feel awkward or anything about me knowing. Right now she doesnt know that I know, but if we become friends on facebook she probably will. I dont really have any huge question, I'm just curious if that's happened to anyone else, and if you have any tips on how to keep it from being too awkward, especially if it comes up "irl".

Anyway I hope you enjoyed what I think is a funny story, and if you have any advice on the subject I'd appreciate it

[deliquesce]

i dont really get why it is funny, but if it's on her profile then i doubt it would be awkward for her -- only if you make a big deal of it.

some of my friends know i was in a same-sex relationship a few years ago and dont care, some make it into a big deal (either positive & negative) and it's those situations i find awkward.

[lily99]

I think if she's happy to publish it on facebook, then she probably doesn't feel awkward about you knowing. If it comes up in conversation, just act as if nothing's different.

take care

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by lily99

I think if she's happy to publish it on facebook, then she probably doesn't feel awkward about you knowing.

I agree. If she wanted to keep her sexuality secret she wouldn't post it on the internet.

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

i dont really get why it is funny,

The friend being gay is not funny - I think the poster was talking about how they found out being the funny part.

[lynn P.]

If your friend has it on facebook then it's not a secret anyway. To me it's a non-issue really. I find it curious - what if your friend was heterosexual - would you discuss that with her? This isn't meant to make you feel bad, but I think it's important.

[1flagwriter]

I have one question...why do we tend to make any deal out of someone like gay, straight, black, white, tall, skinny, fat, mentally ill, athletic....

Why can't we all where one label...HUMAN?!

Hey guys, guess what...I'm human

[Nemo39122]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

i dont really get why it is funny, but if it's on her profile then i doubt it would be awkward for her -- only if you make a big deal of it.

some of my friends know i was in a same-sex relationship a few years ago and dont care, some make it into a big deal (either positive & negative) and it's those situations i find awkward.

Its not funny, its funny how I found out. Most of her profile was blocked except for friends, how I found out was a few of the pages shes a fan of basically told me (one being the "Gay Pride" page). So I accidentally found out.

[notz]

I think it's really cool that you're taking karate. I also think it's really cool that your friend is enlightened enough to be a fan of The Gay Pride page. Still, her sexual preference isn't totally revealed by that membership. Gay Pride doesn't discriminate, all are welcome.

You may or may not be right, who knows?

P.S. I'm a member of the Button Gwinnett page but that doesn't make me a button!

[lynn P.]

I agree with Notz. Her being a fan of gay pride doesn't mean she's gay. Like I said before I find it odd we're even discussing this. If this was a heterosexual person, we wouldn't be talking about her. If you saw photos of hunky guys and saw she was a fan of a guys dance group - would we be contemplating "I think she's heterosexual............should I bring it up"?

[Nemo39122]

True. Now it seems stupid that I even made the thread lol

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by Xx_Not_Emo_xX

True. Now it seems stupid that I even made the thread lol

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(((xXNot Emo xX)))) - Don't feel it's stupid. Let's take it as a learning experience. The only reason I have a greater understanding of the concept, is because my brother was gay(now passed) and I support the gay community. I'm also probably a lot older than you - I've grown wiser with age lol. The fact that you're willing to talk with out getting offended shows you have good intentions. Peace to you Not Emo

[writingwithink]

Don't feel bad "Not Emo." I'm wondering if you've been around many gay people in your life. If not, I hope that you will find delight in meeting and befriending some.

Here's a start: As a lesbian who is married to my partner (legally - in those states that recognize it; loyally - always and everywhere), our lives are just as mundane (and as complicated) as heterosexual couples. We get up, we feed the pets, we go to work, we pay our bills, we cry, we laugh, we argue, we love, we bleed, we are.

Feel free to send a private message any time.

Peace,
writing

[notz]

Not Emo,

Do not worry! A minor blip on the radar screen...look at it this way, now you have some new friends! Otay?

I still think it's really cool you're in karate. I bet you're a really cool person too.
me

[Nemo39122]

Originally Posted by writingwithink

Don't feel bad "Not Emo." I'm wondering if you've been around many gay people in your life. If not, I hope that you will find delight in meeting and befriending some.

Here's a start: As a lesbian who is married to my partner (legally - in those states that recognize it; loyally - always and everywhere), our lives are just as mundane (and as complicated) as heterosexual couples. We get up, we feed the pets, we go to work, we pay our bills, we cry, we laugh, we argue, we love, we bleed, we are.

Feel free to send a private message any time.

Peace,
writing

Thats true, I haven't (that I know of). But I think the only reason Ive even thought about this for more than like 2 seconds is I used to be homeschooled (just graduated) and my family has moved 14 times so I never had alot of friends, so I'm kinda paranoid about screwing up in friendships. And I have a tendency to overthink everything lol

anyway, to everyone who replied -->

[deliquesce]

not emo, sorry if my humour count was down when i replied earlier. i think it's way better that you acknowledge that you're uncertain about what to do, rather than being uncertain and therefore never making the friend .

did you end up sending her a friend request on facebook? i'm excited for you that you might be able to make more permanent connections now .

[Nemo39122]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

not emo, sorry if my humour count was down when i replied earlier. i think it's way better that you acknowledge that you're uncertain about what to do, rather than being uncertain and therefore never making the friend .

did you end up sending her a friend request on facebook? i'm excited for you that you might be able to make more permanent connections now .

yeah, I managed to ignore my shyness long enough to send a few friend requests

It hasn't been long since I did though, I don't know if she accepted my friend request or not yet