[jexa]

Hi all,

So.. I am working on some things in T about sex stuff and.. *sigh* I am supposed to be looking up healthy portrayals of sex and exposing myself to positive messages about sex.

This is extremely triggering for me and I'm having a hard time doing any searches at all. It is so hard to find positive messages about sex and by the time I run across something that might work I am so triggered I am too numb to process it.



Any tips? Anyone have a good resource where the search isn't so daunting?

[perpetuallysad]

I'm not big on romantic comedies, but maybe you could start with stuff like that. They usually have vague references to sex, and maybe a few little scenes, but are usually portrayed in a sweet way. Maybe something like that?

[AkAngel]

Perhaps you might find this http://www.realisticromance.com/index.html helpful.

[Vibe]

I'd probably include the word 'love' in my searches. You'll get less violence and hardcore smut that way. Also stuff about committed spouses. Um *considers* sometimes people write stories which include healthy portrayals of sex or do artwork thereof. The first can be weeded out by reading summaries and the latter by searching the right key words at the right sites (sorry to say I don't know these off the top of my head; it'd take some experimentation on my part).

Also, you may want to look into books instead of internet searches. Online you're going to find more porn than anything. A book store or library will make it harder to find stuff on sex, but it should also be less triggering when you do. It also might be easier to find something positive in those environments. I know there are messages out there about sexual liberation and combating the stigma and repression associated with sex. Material from a more educated (and positive) source may be more along the lines of what you need.

And if all else fails, I'd let your T know that you're having trouble with the advice, and ask for some assistance in finding good material. They should be sympathetic.