[anniepickle]

Hi Everyone,

This may sound a bit odd but I need some feedback on a situation in my married sex life. My husband was raised in Pennsylvania and I was raised in Iowa. We discuss our on going lack of a sex life and comes out and tells me that he want me to be slutty. So I am thinking about what to do to be slutty for my husband. I am willing to try anything to amp up our love life. So after many failed attempts at being "slutty" for him, he tells me that my version of slutty is not what he was thinking. The only more explination he can give me is that there is somewhat of a cultural difference between east coast women and midwest women. Thus I have to think that there must be some type of "east coast slutty" that I need to figure out.

I am a loving wife and would love to figure this out. Any input would be great.

[RomanSunburn]

Here's my take on it...

I've lived in Massachusetts for about 10 years, spent two years in Washington, DC, and the majority of my extended family lives in New Jersey. My childhood was in Ohio, and I am currently living in Wisconsin.

I think the mian difference is, and this is just my opinion, not any scientificly studied or hard facts, but girls in the midwest have a tendency to be a lot more religious and also a lot more conservative in their thought processes, beliefs, and even clothing style. I have a friend here in WI, lived in Ohio for 18 years, and she was recently buying her wedding dress. The dress she picked out has a super thin brown ribbon around the waist -- she worried about getting it because she didn't want anyone thinking she was a slut or had slept with her fiance before marrying him. From what I've observed, no one really worries about that back east.

I wouldn't say that girls are sluttier on the east coast (some are, not all); everything is just more.. relaxed. Another thing I've noticed is that in the midwest, fashions are still a few years behind what people wear on the coasts.

Maybe to try to spice things up you could try shopping for lingerie at national brand stores, like Victoria Secret or Fredericks of Hollywood.

I'm sorry if this wasn't actually much help. I really can't tell you what to do differently, I can only just point out what I've noticed as differences between girls back home and girls here.

Good luck!

I've never really spent much time back east or in the midwest so I can only tell you about California. If I were trying to be slutty I would wear a form fitting dress that is very short with black high heel boots. Or go to adamandeve.com their lingerie is pretty slutty as I think of slutty. Most importantly though have your husband describe exactly what he is looking for. A generic term is obviously not working. Perhaps get into sex therapy too. It might help.

Love and Hugs,
Tara

[Perna]

I would look at Philadelphia gentlemen's club websites, like Delilah's, and see what you could learn? http://www.delilahs.com/aboutus.html

[einundzwanzig]

I live in Iowa now, (was born in Hannover, Germany) but that is cool we are from same state. This is interesting about midwest versus eastern women sexually. I no for me, I am very open sexually. I like to experiement and have no problem being "slutty." but I dont no if that has any thing to do with living in Iowa. It could be a German thing to, I am not modest.. but what are you doing that is not "slutty?" What does he want you to do? Seems he is not specific for what he wants from you. Slutty is to general. Good luck.



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