How fast is TOO fast?

I'll admit it...I'm a minute woman. More than 15 mins and I'm done. Usually I have to hold myself off to even go that long! I guess that's good in some ways. I almost always reach orgasm. However....lately things have been ending a little too quick.

Not premature. But typically about 10 minutes in I hear "oh no....I'm sorry". Ugh. This started a few months ago and the first time I brushed it off. The second time I attributed it to he was thinking about the last time which made him more nervous etc.... But now it has happened like 5 times in the last couple months.

He says it's because he is just so attracted to me that he can't help it. I guess I should take that as a compliment, if it's true. But at the same time...I can only be sooo frustrated. I try to be supportive but MAN! Sometimes I can have him just do other stuff afterwards to get me there but, most of the time, the mood is ruined (for me at least) and I end up feeling wound up and just....frustrated.

Now he is feeling like I am not going to want him anymore because of this sudden spike in early ejaculation. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to make him feel bad but I need mine too! We have been together over 2 years and this just started. I just can't think of anything that has changed recently to cause it. But I don't really know the kinds of changes that cause this anyway? Any ideas?

More foreplay for you? I mean if you make him work to bring you closer before you start properly, that might help.
Perhaps try doing it twice in the day? Once for him and once later on for you when he is still 'recovering'
Try changing what you are doing? I know in some postitions I have trouble lasting as long as usual
Perhaps pause during the middle? Perhaps try breaking off to kiss and stroke, let you both get your breath back (i know thats difficult sometimes!)

((salukigirl))

A very, very common problem that women have with men. It is common that a man ejaculates quickly ~ especially if sex doesn't occur very often.

For me, I am on top, and regulate what we're doing. Not that passion isn't there...it is, but my boyfriend is physically disabled (which makes me the one in charge). Anyway, women basically have several areas that may bring pleasure. Discovering where your areas of pleasure are may be something that you and your bf should do. Men typically want very much to please their women, but not all of us enjoy the same things. So, it takes some open communication between us to get physical desires met.

It's a little humbling ~ not really something we "enjoy" talking about. But it does help! Tell him where you like to be touched, and how you like to be touched too! Once your physical desires have been met, you'll have a lot more interest and enjoyment in meeting his desires.

Best wishes and luck to you both!

X - twice a day?! I gotta give my body time to recover lol

Shez - we try foreplay but it's hard to keep that going sometimes haha. I'm usually the one who takes charge as well. When we go through the regular motions it's fine. It's like when we try new things is when it happens. But I LIKE trying new things and so does he. We have sex on average 2-3 times a week. He has been working overnights and we see each other when he gets home and I'm leaving for class and then when I get home and he is leaving for work. So lately it hasn't been conducive to our schedule. But when schedules are set and it's not hectic, 2-3 times a week is probably a good figure. I don't know if that's way under average?

sometimes it would be ok to have him masturbate first. then wait a little bit and have sex together. it helps trust me.

bebop - we tried your suggestion tonight and everything went fine! We waited a little longer before just jumping into it and it actually lasted longer and felt better. Sometimes it's just so damn hard to not jump into it! haha