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hi all i hope you can help me. ive been loving girls for all my life and last weekend i had a dream were a guy was gonna hav sex with me i woke up instantly. started having trouble peeing im engaged to my fiace whome ive been with for four years and shes stunnin never failed to turn me on. but now icant get aroused and hav a tense feeling near enough were my prostate is and i have un wanted thoughts of guys in my head and im all ovr the place cant even watch tv coz im worried about my reaction to a guy or even when im out driving and pass people in street. im really startin to loose it and also no longer get mornin wood although i went to doctors about peeing and derection problem and got antibiotics. They said bladder infection i just want my libido back because my lady tn hinks its her and its not i love her so much cant loose her

can any1 help btw i seem to slowly be getting my mojo back . also would excessive masterbation cause this because i was watching alot of straight porn also was eyeing up alot of girls she didnt like that and obviously argued with me about it but shes the one for me

can anyone help at all?

ironhed, this sounds like a complicated situation. Do you think your OCD is causing you to obsess about being sexually aroused by men? Maybe like since you had the dream it's all snowballing into a much bigger issue? Since it's been about a week maybe now would be a good time to nip it in the bud. Maybe you can use some of your OCD coping methods to deal with your sexually aroused issues.

Remember, these thoughts started in a dream. I'm not saying to ignore your feelings, but when you are having the sexual arousal for men can you try to distract yourself with other things or count to 10 (or however long it takes).

It's good to try to keep communications open with your girlfriend, but I understand how extremely difficult to talk with here about this issue. Remember, you do have a right to privacy, even with your girlfriend. But it might be good to share as much as you feel comfortable with. Even if you just tell her your are anxious. Go out of way to do "nice" things for her--maybe a back rub or bringing home flowers....etc. Tell her how much you love her.

Have you thought about seeing a therapist? If this does not resolve it's self soon you might want to try that route.

And, by the way, I've been down the same road of having sexuality issues such as being attracted to the same sex (lesbian). Please hang in there. Send me a message if you want to talk/chat. I'm very open about talking about these issues.

thankyou im sure itll pass im startin to pass urine better and feel more like myself hopefully ill strt eating more again. i started smoking more to take my mind off it ill b fine just gotta get it outa my head. i like women too much for this and i love sex with them and i love my lady. i just gotta be good with her and let her know everything is ok which i already have. yeah ill letyou know how things go anyone else woth any help would also be very good