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Old Mar 22, 2011, 05:11 PM
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I ended up liking my former best friend. She eventually found out cause I told her and when she did she actually said she liked me back. She later changed her mind when I told my other friend who was also her friend what was going on. The girl I liked ended up freaking out saying she was straight and that I made her look bad by telling the other friend. She did not want to accept anything with me after me simply telling my other friend. She said she wanted no one to know. She was ashamed of me.. What did I do?

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Old Mar 22, 2011, 05:17 PM
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Not all one's partners are as comfortable with themselves and talking about their private lives as we may be. Telling a third person about someone who is not you is not "polite" as it is the other person's business to tell about themselves, not yours.
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Old Mar 22, 2011, 05:26 PM
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I understand that, but does she have to start rumors and such? She said I came onto her sexually to random people at our school. I didn't do that.
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Old Mar 22, 2011, 11:35 PM
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Not cool. Your friend starting rumours I mean. That's just tasteless.

On the other hand though in the future you should talk to your partners about disclosing your relationships to other people before doing so. It might prevent any other mishaps like this in the future.
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Old Mar 23, 2011, 03:21 PM
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Thank you for the advice.
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Old Mar 23, 2011, 03:56 PM
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She freaked and picked an ugly way to put distance between what you had said about her and everyone else thinking that "publicly". That's why it is good to be sure of your partner before speaking to anyone about them; not just as a courtesy to them but because if they panic, they can hurt you!
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Old Mar 26, 2011, 12:03 AM
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Keep relationships private just between you & the other person....it is NO ONE ELSE'S BUSINESS. That way there won't be any misunderstandings & there won't be people talking behind other peoples backs.

That way if the person really is just saying they like you but not in the way you are thinking the like is, then you will avoid any misunderstanding also....just because another girl "likes" you doesn't mean they are necessarily interested in you sexually. Something you need to make sure of yourself before ever saying anything in the first place & then it's "wrong" to not keep relationships private in the second place.
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Old Mar 27, 2011, 09:24 PM
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I would like everyone that says I shouldn't have said anything and who is pretty much saying what she did was okay to think about where we are. We are in a place of support so If you want to make me feel worse don't comment!
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Old Mar 28, 2011, 07:25 AM
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It may be true that you shouldn't have told other people without asking her first, BUT that doesn't mean her reaction was necessarily right either. I think she just freaked out and overreacted because she didn't want others to know yet that she isn't straight. She may not even really know herself, or hasn't accepted it yet. Really the only advice I can think of would be to try to talk to her about it, see if there's any kind of relationship still there and who/when to tell about it.
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Old Mar 30, 2011, 10:33 AM
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Just a comment on support.....some of the best support I have received in my life hasn't been what I want to hear.....the best support I have experienced is what opens my mind to other ways of thinking so that I can grow as a person & learn how to see things beyond what my own mind allows me to see.
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I'm sorry you got hurt. Down the road ,it may give you more perspective in your life. For now, don't forget to breathe. Remember, you are always loved here on PC!
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Old Apr 04, 2011, 07:21 PM
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Thank you everyone for you words of wisdom and support.
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Old Apr 06, 2011, 01:27 PM
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Well - i know you got hurt by the result your own action more than you really deserved - you really did - but - if you give it a second thought - -

It just proves the universe is working perfectly! imagine that this nasty girl would become your parter after a while and THEN start a rumor about you! Who knows why she does it? Maybe thats a habit of hers? You know now you wouldn`t tell to a third person again - but - this taught you a thing or two about HER as well..didn` it?

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Old Apr 07, 2011, 01:00 PM
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Yes it did.... she says she is stright anyways. We worked things out but as FRIENDS. Her and I are not a good romantic match.
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