A puzzled father

i`m freaking out and can`t put the pieces of "thought" together. I am a father and I caught my son touching MY penis and butt when I was asleep when he was 6 yrs old. As a father I did nothing and said nothing. When my son was 15 I caught him doing the same thing when I was asleep and told him it was not cool or right to GOOSE your dad and to knock that **** off. Well today he is 16 and I caught him rubbing my penis this morning as I was asleep. I confronted him this morning and he just kept saying he was sorry and he did not know why he did these things, I asked him if anyone has ever done that to him and he said NO. I have told my wife about all the encounters that`s happened we are puzzled and im sick to my stomach and don`t know what to do

Is it possible that he is exploring his sexuality? You might want to ask your son if he would like to talk to a therapist, someone that he could just be open and honest with.

I agree your son should speak to a therapist. I'm sorry you're understandably upset. Do you have other children - I don't mean to worry you but I would be worried about him touching other people in your family, especially younger children...siblings or cousins. He needs to understand he needs permission before he touches anyone!! For now you should lock your door when you're sleeping. Has he expressed any homosexual tendencies? Ask him point blank ...why is he doing this.

I think its important to say again - if your son has the courage/impulses to touch you, then I would be very concerned about him doing this to other more vulnerable people or members of your family - get him help ASAP.

See a therapist and consider locking your bedroom door.

Call a therapist. This is not just thinking, this is doing, and that's very serious. The repercussions of him doing this to someone else would be beyond your reaction of wanting to help him, and that is probably a frightening thought for you and your wife to deal with. You want to protect him from himself. I know this must be heart breaking, to see your son going through this, and it is a confusing situation for you to be in, to feel victimized by your own son, but also have no idea how to help him.

It's good that you're reaching out, though; that's how you are all going to get help. He probably feels shame and remorse for what he has done, and this compulsion needs to be addressed immediately, to figure out why his remorse is overcome by his compulsion to keep doing something he knows is wrong, even after he has been caught more than once.

I hope you can get help and that your son will understand why he is doing this and accept that this can not happen again, ever. I wish you and your family strength.

I sat down with him and asked him point blank whats going on in his head, He said he is confused about his sexuality and was curious. I took him to a therapist, he is scheduled to go every week.

Thank you, your comments are true and what I`m thinking and feeling. We took him to a therapist and he is going once a week now..Thank You

I'm so glad to hear that he has accepted therapy. It must be a great relief to know that he has some insight into his actions. Hopefully he will find some understanding and be able to move on from this.

I wish you all the best.