Something I'd never ask elsewhere.

Okay, this is awkward for me cuz I've never really spoken about it, except with my husband. I've been his only partner so he really hasn't known what to say or think.

I love giving my husband oral sex, but when it comes to recieving it, I just feel.... like it's gross. He would love to go down on me but I just worry that it would be disgusting for him.

I know this comes from my first and only other partner, because he thought that going down on girls was gross. We were young, and since then he has told me that now that he's more experienced he loves it.

I just can't get over that feeling that it's gross now, because he told me it would be. (It's not that I have problems down there or whatever, it's just in my head..)

How do I get comfortable with my husband doing this so that I can enjoy it? Is it even something I should really try to become comfortable with?

My wife is sometimes uncomfortable receiving oral sex. I encourage her to simply relax and enjoy. Sometimes she is able to do so and sometimes she is not. I think it has a lot to do with how her day at work went, or other extraneous events that are on her mind.

I have reassured her that I love performing oral sex on her with some success. She is more open to it now that I have eased her anxiety.

I would likewise encourage you to simply relax and enjoy. Obviously your husband would like to do this for you so it is only right that you relax and enjoy this expression of your husbands love and affection for you.

Lighten up and enjoy.

There are a number of things I'd like to do with my wife that she doesn't enjoy. I'm sad about that, but "consensual" means accepting her refusal.

I used to feel the same way. My hubby convinced me that he loves to do it, and every single male friend I have talked to had said the same. Trust me, if he didn't want to do it, and you told him you didn't want it, he would be soooo happy to hear that. For many men, making a woman feel good is a huge ego boost... And, of course, it really does a lot for them, sexually, to be the one delivering the pleasure. Your man is not going to be "grossed out", I promise!
Again, I used to think the same thing. I was so opposed to the idea, for a number of reasons. But if your man wants to go down, LET him. And ENJOY. And don't be self-conscious, or wonder what he is thinking. How many men would look at a woman's v and think, "OMG, gross, I am not touching that?" Hehe. As much as he loves oral sex, you will too, as long as you are relaxed and ready to let him have a turn pleasuring YOU.

Both going together to see a sex therapist can help to overcome these issues.

I see nothing wrong with a woman doing this for her man out of consideration and love. Same for giving oral. Relationships are about compromise and sacrifice. I mean woman today want men to commit to marriage, visit the in-laws all the time and give up so much in order to be with them but they can't take a shower and let their man go down on them and pretend to like it? They can certainly fake liking intercourse and even having an orgasm. That said, I am a man who gains great enjoyment from pleasing my partner. If she seriously had an aversion to it she couldn't overcome, I would respect that, but I would not pretend I wasn't disappointed. I would probably try to get her into counseling to resolve it. I liken it to a man telling his woman that he just likes quickies so she is out of luck if she never orgasms.