About whom do you fantasize when you masturbate?

HAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I completely forgot I had posted this! I could say I'm rather too revealing.

Most of that has changed from then till now.

1. I don't fantasize about gay.........well.........okay, so some of the fantasies are the same, just different people. HOWEVER...as I was saying...I should come up with a new list to compare to the old one.

1. An*l
2. Strap-ons
3. To compare to the old list, I like masculine men now and I'm not interested in sex with women.
4. Dominating another man.
5. Blindfolding another man.
6. Wearing/seeing others wear German WWII uniforms. (oh, so now I'm too timid to say it?)

It's a much shorter list than last, but now I know exactly what I want. I didn't know what I want last time, that's definitely changed.

I'm sorry if that was too much
I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, so I don't realize that not everyone else is comfortable with theirs. =[

No, no, no, Dr. Skipper! I love your openness...it's so refreshing. I'm actually quite comfortable with the topic of sex, which I learned to be that way from the time I was hitting puberty. Underage, I was able to get Playgirl, so that was one of my first exposures to sex education (and that stuff they told us in 5th grade). I took an interest in porn and erotica, but not like most men do. I found I get turned on (or I used to, anyway...my sex drive is practically nil and I just don't find the same stimulation ) from romance novels. I like the erotica ones that have come out in the past 15 years or so, but my favorites are the standard romances, especially time-travel and historical romances. I like the terms they have for sex parts and the phrases they use and the dominant hero who tries to control the female but she ain't havin' it--no, sir!--but when he kisses her, she melts! When he gets mad at her, she feels all tingly! She gets mad at him, too...but they keep getting aroused around each other, and eventually, it explodes!!! (Is it warm in here?)

My favorite romances have a lot of humor in them, while still keeping a well-written, at least-somewhat believable story. I'm a fan of Lynsay Sands and Sandra Hill, for example.

I'm slipping off the topic...I became more comfortable with my own sexuality (although I do have some issues) because I read everything I could get my hands on when it came to sex, including educational sexual health books (like those by my beloved Dr. Ruth). Oh, to be a teen/young adult again, with that wild sex drive and at 18 (but 21 is better) and being legal to read such stuff. I learned not to be embarrassed by admitting I masturbate and not letting anyone shame me. It was my own interest and research that led me to this, not my parents or others, who did try to shame me about sex. I was an adult the first time I had sex, but I knew a lot more than my friends who were having sex did (they would ask me questions, or not believe me when I told them what Dr. Ruth would say).

I'm a feminist, but like I said before, I like romances with alpha males...to a point. There are writers whose heroes go too far, or the heroines are insipid peabrains. I like strong heroes in books, but in real life, if a man tried to control me like some in these books, I'd raise quite the fuss! And I like the heroines to be spitfires or hellions, not the type to take orders from a man, so they're a challenge to their heroes, who are used to having people obey. I do believe in male-female (and transgender/whatever) equality, but sexual fantasy can be playful and fun even if it's not your public persona, so to say.

While I'm not really into BDSM, I guess you could say I'm into light BDSM...maybe a little spanking (not to bring pain, but I just like the idea of the conquering), perhaps restrained (by someone I trusted implicitly), and having to obey the dominant. However, I also like the idea of playing the dominant. I like to experiment.

That said, buttsex just isn't my thing. I think anyone who wants to do it should enjoy themselves to their heart's desire, but with me, keep your hands and other parts away from my poop chute!

Can you recommend any good books? I have a hard time focusing on reading, but I'm looking for erotica that will keep my attention.

Well, as I said, Sandra Hill and Lynsay Sands have some good romances, but if you're looking for the more erotic stuff, you might try Bertrice Small and Emma Holly. One note on B. Small...her romances don't always follow the typical formula. There might be more than one hero; sometimes her romances have dramatic things happen that lead the heroine to other lands, for instance, separating her from her originally-intended mate.

If you like fantasy-type novels--specifically about dragon shapeshifters--with a good dose of humor, I recommend CJ England's novels. Very sexy and great laughs. If you like BDSM, you might try Sylvia Day.

One series I recommend hesitantly because these novels were part of my favorite series, but the author had a falling-out with the publisher, so they dropped her. Without their editing, her next novels weren't said to be very good, so I didn't even bother buying them (she was self-publishing them). But if you can get your hands on them, another great first three books of a series are by Dara Joy: Knight of a Trillion Stars, Rejar, and Mine to Take. They involve fantasy, time-travel, shapeshifting (into cats), and erotic powers. I love them all.

If you'd like publishers of erotic novels, here's a bunch from my bookmarks for you. However, I haven't visited many of them in a while, so I apologize for any dead links. Highly recommended are Ellora's Cave and Loose-ID.

Erotic Romance Publishers

http://www.amberheat.com/
http://www.aphroditeunlaced.com/
http://www.aphroditesapples.com/
http://www.blackvelvetseductions.com/
http://www.changelingpress.com/
http://www.cobblestone-press.com/
http://www.ellorascave.com/
http://www.eroticdreamspublishing.com/
http://www.forbiddenpublications.com/
http://www.freyasbower.com/
http://www.imajinnbooks.com/
http://www.juno-books.com/
http://www.ladyaibell.com/
http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/
http://www.loose-id.net/
http://www.midnightshowcase.com/
http://www.eredsage.com/
http://www.renebooks.com/
http://www.samhainpublishing.com/
http://www.silksvault.com/
http://www.sirenpublishing.com/
http://www.whiskeycreekpresstorrid.com/
http://www.whispershome.com/

Erotica Publishers

http://www.amberheat.com/
http://www.circlet.com/
http://www.daedaluspublishing.com/
http://www.erotiquepress.com/
http://www.erotica-readers.com/ERA/G/Erotique.htm
http://www.femme-erotique.com/
http://www.fishnetmag.com/
http://www.goodvibes.com/
http://www.jovianpleasures.com/
http://www.justusroux.com/
http://www.ladyaibell.com/
http://www.logical-lust.com/
http://www.magic-carpet-books.com/
http://www.mysticrose.com/
http://www.nerve.com/
http://www.passionpress.com/
http://www.pinkflamingo.com/
http://www.renebooks.com/
http://www.satinslippers.com/
http://www.scarletthill.com/
http://www.sensorotika.com/
http://www.spice-books.com/
http://www.virginbooks.com/go/sp/InfoPageErotic_52.html
http://www.wickedcastle.com/
http://www.wickedvelvet.com/
http://www.extasybooks.com/

Wow! This is wonderful! Thank you!

Things I've been thinking about today...Blindfolding and feeding my coworker strawberries...at work! He doesn't always agree though.

You can blindfold me and feed me cherries, especially if they come from Shari's Berries (Berries.com)! *Closes eyes and opens mouth wide.* Aaaaaahhhh!!!

Just not the ones with the pits; I don't want you to choke on something as tiny as that.

I'm very tempted to sneak up behind my coworker tomorrow and blindfold him, telling him he looks good in it.

Should I? Huh huh? Should I? It is sooo tempting! HE is so tempting! Gahhh!

No, do not do it because it is your workplace. Outside of workplace, sure.

don't ruin the fun hamster

I've always fantasied about the person I was involved with at the time. I don't know why but since I was a teenager it's been that way. If I'm committed to someone then fantasizing about other people doesn't do anything for me. I can find other people attractive and I really enjoy porn but my mate is my fantasy I know sappy ain't it?

That's really sweet.

I just realized I said, "cherries" in my last post...I meant "strawberries" from Berries.com. :P

I tend to fantasize about celebrities and actors (not always famous ones), but also people I make up in my head or read in a book (like romances).

Oh, I thought it was a serious question. Sorry.

You are so lucky to have such a vivid imagination. I went through my teen years without a single crush on a celebrity - a rock star or some such, no, none. Just completely foreign to me.

I mostly fantasize about people I make up...or my coworker, apparently.