[11Iseethefuture11]

I was taught growing up that masturbating was a sin. During the hardest time of my life (so far), I was all alone most of the time, depressed, suicidal, and was curious about girls, I was about 14 at the time. I knew nothing about females or the anatomy there of. So I began to do research, and that lead to me watching porn all night long, almost every night, but I didn't masturbate, I didn't know how to, in fact I didn't start masturbating til a few years ago despite watching porn often. I masturbate almost everyday now, and watch about an hour of porn a day. Not everyday but 4 or 5 times a week. I read about studies with men who have masturbating for long periods of time that when it comes to having sex with a real woman that they don't get the satisfaction that porn gives them and even the point of not being able to orgasm during real sex. I need to stop masturbating and watching porn. I don't know how. I need to watch porn, I feel like I need to. I don't know what to do. This is going to get me into trouble in the future.

[Free_at_last]

Originally Posted by 11Iseethefuture11

I read about studies with men who have masturbating for long periods of time that when it comes to having sex with a real woman that they don't get the satisfaction that porn gives them and even the point of not being able to orgasm during real sex.

What works for you, works for you. When you connect with a lover, you won't masturbate as much; no need.

The business about not being able to reach orgasm probably won't be an issue either.

If your relationship goes long term, you'll probably find your use of netporn will increase "x" amount after a few months.

Have fun!

i don't believe that watching porn is good as a teaching device for sexual / love relationships. porn is addictive. and, it seems to be holding you in abeyance rather than helping you grow up and seek out friends and lovers. no one needs porn to live. and, you will do fine if you turn it off and start living in the real world rather than a sexual fantasy one. the real world is a lot more complex and it will take time to learn but it will be worth it because it will give you a life that is a lot less lonely with real, participatory sex!

i disagree that masturbating is a sin. in moderation, it is perfectly normal. i've heard about those studies - a priest told me about them. there may be a little truth but i doubt that you are spoiled goods because of porn and masturbation. after all, my source was a so called sex expert who is celibate. you do the math.

i think some counseling could help you. it appears you are not getting enough attention in this area from your parents - who should be prodding you a little and providing information. you sound very normal but seem to spend too much time alone and that is holding you back. does your school have a counselor?

[CantExplain]

If you remember that porn is not real, and use it solely as an aid to fantasy, I don't think it does much harm.

It won't teach you anything about real sex and certainly nothing about real relationships.
You might learn something about yourself, however.

[Harley47]

The harm in porn (aside from its very real addictive quality) is that if you don't know any better so to speak, you can set an unrealistic expectation of what sex should be. That as I understand it leads to the lack of satisfaction from the real thing.

You have to understand that both parties in those films are being paid to embellish quite a bit on what they're doing, if that makes sense. I've even heard rumors that some of the "actors" are given drugs to "help" things along during production, but I can't validate that. You just need to understand you're being given a show, not what sex between two people who care for each other is.

That being said, I am not trying to say that sex with a partner isn't as good as "porn sex." On the contrary, I would think the emotional connection makes it better.

I would tell you to just relax. Masturbating isn't going to cause you any health effects unless you do it so often that it interferes with your normal life. Same with porn, for the most part, though you need to consider your partner's feelings in you viewing that.

I hope I was of some help.

[Cotton ball]

Masturbation is totally normal and everyone does it. It's nothing to feel guilty about.
Porn is also normal...however don't confuse it with the real thing. I did actually know a guy who was single for a long time and when he finally met someone he really liked it caused him some problems.
If your in a relationship I agree you should be considerate of your partners feelings. If she's insecure or you are having issues it can cause problems.
Most women I think are ok with it as long as you're still handling things on the home front ok. I wouldn't suggest lying about because that could cause some trust issues.
Just try to have some open communication...if it becomes an issue.
Just my opinion.
It's gonna be OK.