Asexuality has destroyed my life

I am a 29 year old male who does not experience sexual attraction in the usual way. I form emotional attachments to females (that is to say, that I am hetero-romantic) but do not experience the drive to persue sexual relationships as normal people would. There is simply nothing about men or women that turns me on. Though I enjoy masturbation, I do not think about sex, only love.
I desperately want to experience a normal sexual urge because I so want to be able to love someone properly and give them sexual pleasure as well as myself. People have often said that if I were to explain my problem to the woman in question, they may understand and a sexual compromise could be reached but I can guarentee from past experience that nobody understands my problem if explained to them. A relationship is impossible.
Others have said that perhaps an asexual relationship is the answer but asexuals are so rare that that is not going to happen and in any event, that is not good enough for me as I seek the desire for sex as the satisfactory communicator of love.
I have been to counsellors time without number and none of them have had the slightest idea what I am talking about, as I fear no one here will either. It recently dawned on me that there is, in fact, no solution to my situation. The only thing I can do is try to cope with it, which means that my life is never going to improve to a level which makes me happy. Without a cure, I am finished. Does anybody know what I mean?