cant stop masturbating

Hello am a girl in my young 20s...and I can not stop masturbating .. I masturbate at every opportunity I get. I feel like I constantly have to touch my vagina with my fingers. But I am innocent and have never had sex, and I will not stop in my fingers, but just there at the beginning of the vagina .. you know. I'm ashamed incredibly much, but can not stop! I really think I'm addicted to it, and even worse, it always feels that I have to move there. can not stop .. I am also engaged to be married and is afraid it will become flabby down there or that it will affect my innocence. I masturbate daily, constantly, can not stop, and it's serious. and I hate myself for even that, and I'm ashamed very much for that. Sorry .. but had to share with me .. by the way .. I began to masturbate as a 4 year old .. is it weird? I think it's weird. and excuse my choice of words but sometimes I wish that could be rough ****ed till I will never again feel this horny and full of masturbation .. It is terrible .. way too vulgar.. but its the truth and it makes me sick.. what to do?

Hey there. I hope to be of some.

Speaking strictly of what most men consider virginity and innocence (ie the hymen, speaking simply), what you do in the manner you describe shouldn't effect that unless it becomes penetrative. I don't think it will effect the appearance either.

The best thing you can do if you truly feel it's a problem is see a therapist. They should be able to hep you. But at the same time...you mentioned daily? Does that mean once per day?

It's only a serious issue if you do it to the extent that it interrupts your day to day activities (ie You didn't do X that you were supposed to do because of this). It could simply be that you have a high libido.

I feel a little uncomfortable asking this...but it could help myself and other posters help you. Can you give us a more precise number on how often?

Hi

I agree with the last reply. There is nothing wrong with masturbation but as long as it doesn't interfere with ordinary duties like going to work. I wouldn't feel ashamed about doing it. Every man and nearly every women does it so your not alone. But as the previous person said maybe see a therapist to see if there are any underlying issues that may make you want to masturbate more than what you want.

hmmm... I can masturbate 1-4 hours many times during the day.. no not one time a day.. but many many times during the day..yes perhaps you are right...I think I need serious help in this..no wait..I KNOW, that i need help..

Well, it's still possible you simply have a high libido, but yes, I agree that 4 hours is perhaps a little excessive. lol The range makes it a little difficult...I think if it were one time for maybe 1 hour, you'd be fine, the 2-4 seems a little much. A therapist should be able to diagnose why you do this and help you cut down (though not out...there's nothing wrong with the act itself ).

Still, there's not any physical health effects that I think you need to worry about (but then again, I am a guy, so I would defer to the advice of one of our female posters there), so please don't let that stress you additionally. It won't affect your innocence, and I don't think it will alter your husband's perception of you one bit.

what is a high libido?

a high sex drive

But I never had sex.. hmmmmm.. am going mad. aren't there any of those therapist people here that one can talk to?

You don't need to have sex to have a high sex drive.

A high sex drive doesn't mean that you necessarily be sexually active. It only means simply that you seek or desire a high amount of sexual stimulation.

ohh.. well.. I dont know if its any good.. since its taking most of my time

Any way you could maybe put yourself in more situations where you can't masturbate or don't have adequate time to? It would help limit the time for you to masturbate if you're uncomfortable or unhappy with the amount of time you spend doing it.

okey.. I started working again .. but in the middle of the day.. when I was sitting down, I felt the warmth inside down there.. AND then 5 min later I find myself rubbing my thighs against each other because I so badly wanted to shove my hand down there and touch myself. It was pure torture! .. advice anyone?

Not only are hormones released when you masturbate/orgasm but it is also a way of relaxing or soothing yourself when you're stressed or tense. Personally, I'm stressed all the time and if I'm not kept busy my mind always wonders to porn and sex which inturn make me want to touch myself or have someone else touch me.

To help yourself you should see a therapist. You should also consider your job and whether or not it takes up energy or requires you to really focus, maybe you have a lot of built up sexual energy. My advice other than seeking therapy(which may be embarrassing but they've heard it all before) is exercise. Exercise is very good for burning off sexual energy(freud,haha) and also releases similar chemicals.

Those two-four hours you spend take one of them or more and exercise your butt off! At first the exhaustion may cause you to want to masturbate more to relax but if you plan it right you just won't have the time.

There's a woman in Brazil who was cleared by the courts to masturbate at her workplace office cubicle because it relieves her stress. I think some people just need to do it more often than others.

Sounds like hypersexuality, I have that as a side effect of bipolar disorder. As for the embarrassment, masturbation is completely natural. plus, some men find "flabby" as sexually stimulating, so I wouldn't worry about that either. Hope this helps some?

Are you doing it for the orgasm or just because it calms you having your hands down there? You may just need to find other ways to self soothe, like calming music. I use to masturbate a lot when I was trying to avoid giving in to my other addictions.

You know, I thought of something. Your brain releases endorphins when you orgasm, and it's possible to get a little hooked on those...I wonder if that could contribute?