[evangeline95]

I'm female 17 yo with ocd and I consider myself as a straight cause I've NEVER had fantasies about sex with a girl.Although I'm still virgin and a little bit afraid of having sex but I get easily horny with guys and sometimes I m*****e to them, having normal orgasms after that.But then,the ocd came and fears of homo/bisexuality stuck into my head.I think I can name it as hocd? and since one year before without serious reasons I started to doubt about my sexuality.I am not a homophobic and I don't have ANYTHING against LGBT ppl(I can also say that I have a lot of gay and bi friends and they are great people ) but being lesbian or bisexual is something that doesn't suit to me and it would be strange if someone calls me "bisexual".It's like an other girl and not the real me.Sometimes I wonder why the hell do I think so much about this? I don't wish to be with a woman and I know that I'll never search bi/lesbian woman for relationships.I only had one relationship but I would like to find a guy,the"right one" so much,be married,having kids etc. But I have a question,that confuse me(some of my friends too).
There are some of my female classmates that they enjoy kissing each other,although they consider themselves as straight.I've heard they like it because they are good friends and close to each other and they are united by an innocent love that close friends usually have,without sexual feelings.The idea of kissing their best friends sounds sweet to them,as well as to me.But nothing more! I've never loved a same sex friend in a sexual way.I can't get horny with girls.:S I've heard that sex is the only thing that is not included to a deep friendship,and only if you like having sex with both genders u can consider yourself as a bi.so is it true? is also ture that many straight ppl like kissing each other in a friendly way? thanks I am so confused

[Pandoren]

I'm asexual, so I can't help with most of your dilemma but as for your last section... I would say the difference between a friendship and a conventional relationship is the emotional connection, not the behaviours that you perform with that person. It's up to the two people involved and how they see each other and their bond. After all, two friends can have sex together, but that doesn't make it a relationship. Two asexuals can be in a relationship but not have sex. It's just that people nowadays see sex as a really big thing and there are really other things that make a relationship.

I would say in order to be bisexual, you would need to experience sexual attraction towards men and women (not necessarily "like having sex", because not everyone enjoys the full acts even though they may be sexually attracted to a person, for various reasons, and some people who are not sexually attracted to people can still enjoy some sexual acts- such as kissing, in your friends' case). I do also wish to add though that not all bisexual people are also biromantic (wanting relationships with both men and women). My brother is a heteroromantic bisexual, meaning he's sexually attracted to both, but he only experiences a romantic desire towards women. People of other orientations can also be biromantic (so asexuals, heterosexuals, homosexuals etc).

I don't know about how many straight people kiss each other, but considering I've heard of straight people experimenting or enjoying more than that, it wouldn't surprise me. I'd certainly say I'd expect more women to be publicly kissing than men though!

[lynn P.]

I think this has to do with your OCD and yes there are intrusive thoughts/fears that specifically involve homosexuality. Chances are you're straight and these are simply intrusive thoughts. Try not to worry.

[brokenandalone1234]

I am bisexual so I may not be the best person to help with your problem. I am can say though that a lot of straight people do make out with their friends most of the time it is in a drunken moment though. I know when I kiss a girl or guy though I feel sexual feelings towards both. You can have those desires and not be bisexual. I think it has something to do with your OCD though.

[evangeline95]

brokenandalone1234,just the opossite you are THE BEST person to help me,and thanks for your information <3 I really appreciate it!