[siempre nada]

I have a hard time picturing myself giving oral sex to a potential partner (whether male or female) just knowing how goopy and smelly vaginas get and upon learning what "**** cheese" was and how smelly mens' balls get. Does anyone else feel this way? Ladies (and gents) when you go down on your partner how is it? Are they clean down there? Does it smell bad? Taste bad? I know you don't randomly pull out a wipe and scrub them down before you GO down, So I know there's a fair share of crotch stank going on. IDK why this runs through my thoughts so much. Anyone experienced with oral sex please respond.

Thanks

[lynn P.]

You're brave for being so blunt. I wonder a bit myself about these practices and if there was an honest poll....how many would say they don't want/like to do it and feel pressured and phony pretending they like it? Problem is many people insist to be on the taking end. If you see porn videos, it makes the viewer think, its just the best thing having a body part blocking your airways lol. To solve part of the problem - obviously if a persons having sex, they should also be comfortable saying "go take a shower or join them in the shower".....then they'd be clean. Secondly if a persons healthy down there, shouldn't be anything funky going on a clean body. One would think its common sense to wash first. I took Human Sexuality in university so I can deal medically speaking with these topics.

[siempre nada]

Okay I'm realizing how bad my original post sounds and regretting it a lot. I apologize for the crudeness of my statement, but I can't figure out to edit my original post. I guess its not right for me to ask something so personal of people in such a foul way and expect responses. God I don't know what I was thinking..Somtimes I can be so blunt that it comes off as foul, but its not my intent..sorry to anyone offended by this post..

[Harley47]

Lynn brought up a great point. If you're comfortable enough to have sex with them, you should be more than comfortable enough to ask them to shower.

I've never done anything like that, so I can only offer speculation and my personal thoughts, but for myself, that area is perhaps the most well washed area of my person at any given time (refer to Dane Cook's explanation of "The Triangle Scrub" ). For women, my understanding is that the average woman only produces so much lubrication naturally when aroused, certainly not enough to get "goopy." Perhaps damp?

The only time that I can personally think of that there's any scent of any kind is about when you'd expect: after sweating or after any sexual activity. I wouldn't think you'd be doing that after either of those times without your partner washing. Dunno about women, but my understanding is that there's only any sort of scent if your partner has a yeast infection, but that's bordering the edge of my knowledge on the fairer sex.

Hope I was of some help.

PS: Don't worry about it. The edit feature disappears after x amount of time. You were a little blunt, sure, but the other extreme is myself, who continually skirts around the needed verbs and nouns. lol I prefer blunt to "what the heck is he talking about?"

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by siempre nada

Okay I'm realizing how bad my original post sounds and regretting it a lot. I apologize for the crudeness of my statement, but I can't figure out to edit my original post. I guess its not right for me to ask something so personal of people in such a foul way and expect responses. God I don't know what I was thinking..Somtimes I can be so blunt that it comes off as foul, but its not my intent..sorry to anyone offended by this post..

Hey that's okay really. Honestly....some of what you said people are thinking in their heads. Since you wrote this in the morning, the window to edit is gone, but if you want to edit part or delete the whole thing, you can 1. just click the report button and explain you want your own post edited or deleted
2. send a PM to the moderator of this forum. Number 1 will be faster.

If your partner is freshly showered/groomed then its much more tolerable. If you encounter what you fear, then don't comply or say "this would great if you take a fast shower. I think its fine to talk medically speaking about this so people can gain knowledge.

[Pandoren]

It's not compulsory to enjoy all sex acts. I'm sure any partner worth your time will be happy enough to be stimulated in other ways, just so long as their needs are fulfilled.

[TheWell]

When I know my partner is going "south of the border" I'll pop into the bathroom for a quick cleanup. A mutual shower is a great way to start clean for both partners without having to ask.

[Yoda]

I agree that a bath or shower before is a must.

Another thing that helps is removing pubic hair, all or most of it. Hair holds oils and scents so without it things are much more appealing.

[Big Mama]

Some things just can't be said with out being blunt. Thats o.k. Oral sex is not my favorite to give. But to receive is nice. My H doesn't stop me if I say hay give me a sec in the bathroom to clean up. No one in there right mind would say no way, dirty please. I've often told my H no thanks it's not so clean. Sometimes he doesn't care and I wash up before hand.

Guys have an aroma to. Not one I like but with a little soap things are tolerable. If I want to receive then I should be open to give. My H knows I do not like giving (past rape) so he seldom asks but never declines if I offer.

[growlycat]

I love the bluntness of this question! I wonder how many people actually like giving or getting--direct stimulation vs indirect stimulation? Just wondering. Hands are under -appreciated.

[shezbut]

Actually, your Q really isn't that unusual or rude!

It's more of a "frank reality" of life. One that society tries to overlook. When I was a teenager, it was very popular and expected for a girl to douche regularly. Otherwise, general society had this view of girls being smelly. Very sad really.

Several years later, I learned in college that douching is horrible for a woman's vagina! Ridding the system of "healthy bacteria" and inviting bad bacteria to stick around. Since then, I stick to purely showers. I also use simple soaps, not "flowery" ones, as my body really doesn't like those! I often get itchy and irritated down below when I use Caress (or some soap like that). I am happy to wash up before sex with my bf, because I wouldn't want to smell or taste funky!

Due to my SA history, I do have a harder time pleasing my bf through oral sex. I will try very hard if I have to, but I'd certainly rather not (as it brings up bad images in my head). However, he enjoys the experience as much as anyone else, and it would be wrong for me to hold that back from him because of my negative history.

He doesn't need to wash up beforehand, He's pretty clean. Nothing smelly or slimy. I think that you somehow got some negative images stuck in your head of what "private parts" are like? Now, everyone isn't the same. Some people are cleaner than others ~ some sweat more easily. Ask them to clean up. Most people wouldn't complain!

Hope that helps you understand the private parts a little better. Best wishes!

Perhaps its the idea of having oral sex in general that you're really put off by? There is of course nothing wrong with this - not everyone is into this kind of sex. I personally am not a huge fan but with sex in general, good hygiene is a must. Have a shower with your partner beforehand or maybe have a convo with them to state plainly that the idea of oral makes you nervous and that if you knew you were both clean beforehand it would make things easier. Sounds silly but sometimes to get what you want you've got to ask for it. Im sure no guy would have a girl go down on him or vice versa without being clean first anyway - it only adds to personal insecurity let alone discomfort for the other partner. All the best.

[kitten2012]

Everyone's body has a scent of its own (skin, hair, armpits, penises and vaginas). It doesn't smell or taste bad or strong (ok, semen tastes bad - true - but that's not until the end). I'm a big fan of oral sex and have given and received with both genders. Cleanliness matters, but as most people pointed out, we tend to want to be clean prior to any kind of sex anyway. Give it a try when you're with someone you really like and feel comfortable with. Then you'll know if it's your thing or not.

I wish more people asked questions like this - it's a normal thing to be curious about.

[brokenandalone1234]

I am a huge fan of oral sex. When I was younger though I had the thought that oral sex was gross. I always try to be clean and well shaved down there. I don't want to go down on a guy who is dirty down there so I don't want to be dirty down there either. If I feel my partner may not be so clean I either recommond a shower together or I say why don't I get you a bath running it helps to ease the converstation in that direction and than other times I am blunt and just come out and say it doesn't smell right I won't go down on you.