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Old Sep 18, 2012, 08:50 AM
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Don't like sex with males fantisize about sex with a female there gental am I bi

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Old Sep 18, 2012, 10:20 AM
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Well...

Is it that you aren't sexually attracted to men or that you are sexually attracted but the sex itself is mentally unappealing/uncomfortable/unsatisfying?

What attraction do you feel towards men that makes you suspect you might be bisexual? Do you experience romantic attraction to them (wanting an emotional relationship) without experiencing the sexual component?

Do you experience sexual attraction to real women or is it an aspect of that idea that you fantasise about?
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Old Sep 18, 2012, 10:48 AM
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Don't like sex with males fantisize about sex with a female there gental am I bi
Im sorry we cant tell you what sexual orientation you are only you know that..

what I can say is that I know many couples that are male female relationships, not bi that do fantasize about having sex with the same gender and that doesnt make them bi.

Im a lesbian and I fantasize about having sex with women not men and do not like sex with a man.

I also know many gay men that fantasize about having sex with men and women.

fantasizing one way or the other isnt what determines a persons sexual orientation.

example my fantasies wasnt what told me I was a lesbian. I knew I was a lesbian because I am attracted to women not men. when all my friends were falling in love with their girl boy relationships I fell in love with a girl. it wasnt just about sex. I loved how this girl talked, walked, how she looked in the close she chose to wear and her personality, she was funny, and so cool. I wanted to be with her, go to school dances with her, go to see a movie with her, spend time with her boating, horseback riding.. All those things that come along with falling in love..

falling in love is different then just wanting sex with someone. wanting sex with someone is called lust, not love..

being one way or the other sexually is about love not lust.

its about who you want to spend your life with,
for some its about who yo want to go camping with
for some its who you want to raise a family with.
its about who you are.

if you were bisexual that means ...

you fall in love with both men and women
you are comfortable doing non sexual things with both men and women
you find both men and women attractive
your sexual enjoyment doesnt depend upon men or women because you enjoy it with both men and women.

and much much more..

again only you can say whether you are bisexual or not. we can not tell you that.
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Old Sep 18, 2012, 07:24 PM
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Well...

Is it that you aren't sexually attracted to men or that you are sexually attracted but the sex itself is mentally unappealing/uncomfortable/unsatisfying?

What attraction do you feel towards men that makes you suspect you might be bisexual? Do you experience romantic attraction to them (wanting an emotional relationship) without experiencing the sexual component?

Do you experience sexual attraction to real women or is it an aspect of that idea that you fantasise about?
dont like sex it hurts and makes me cry i am physically attracted to women to
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Old Sep 19, 2012, 04:48 AM
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Do you feel otherwise attracted to men?
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Old Sep 19, 2012, 08:41 AM
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I think in order to fully help you, we need more information from you. If you are comfortable doing so, could you please answer my previous questions? It would give us a better picture of what is going on.
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Old Sep 21, 2012, 11:51 PM
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Well...

Is it that you aren't sexually attracted to men or that you are sexually attracted but the sex itself is mentally unappealing/uncomfortable/unsatisfying?

What attraction do you feel towards men that makes you suspect you might be bisexual? Do you experience romantic attraction to them (wanting an emotional relationship) without experiencing the sexual component?

Do you experience sexual attraction to real women or is it an aspect of that idea that you fantasise about?
I see women and I want to do things sexually I don't enjoy sex with men I used to but now I don't get turned on my it I fantisize and masturbate to the thought of doing things with other women
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Old Sep 21, 2012, 11:54 PM
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Do you feel otherwise attracted to men?
I used to but no longer do I am to a female and get frustrated as I want to do things and can't so porn gay porn females fantasys and masurbation comes into it
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Old Sep 22, 2012, 11:52 AM
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I think this could go one of two ways.

If you are attracted to women but not to men, you might think "in the moment" and conclude that your orientation has changed and you are now homosexual.

Or... You could see it as a "bigger picture" thing and either call yourself bisexual because you have in your lifetime experienced sexual attraction to both (and might have the potential to do so again), or consider that if this change occurs several times that even though you might not experience sexual attraction to both sexes at once, you have at some times experienced sexual attraction to both, which might be said to be a kind of bisexuality.
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Old Sep 22, 2012, 11:30 PM
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I think this could go one of two ways.

If you are attracted to women but not to men, you might think "in the moment" and conclude that your orientation has changed and you are now homosexual.

Or... You could see it as a "bigger picture" thing and either call yourself bisexual because you have in your lifetime experienced sexual attraction to both (and might have the potential to do so again), or consider that if this change occurs several times that even though you might not experience sexual attraction to both sexes at once, you have at some times experienced sexual attraction to both, which might be said to be a kind of bisexuality.
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Old Sep 25, 2012, 02:46 AM
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It sounds a lot like me and I label myself bisexual
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Old Sep 25, 2012, 05:59 AM
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Old Sep 25, 2012, 07:28 AM
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dot like males dont like sex
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Old Sep 25, 2012, 07:43 AM
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If you don't like sex, then that kind of makes you asexual
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Old Sep 25, 2012, 08:24 AM
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If you don't like sex, then that kind of makes you asexual
Just to clarify though, "not liking sex" is not the definition of asexuality. Asexuality is where you don't experience sexual attraction (and is therefore an orientation, or a lack of an orientation). Whether or not a person actually has sex is a choice and a behaviour, whether or not a person enjoys sex acts is a personal thing. Some asexuals don't enjoy sex or want to try it, other asexuals are open to sex and can enjoy it... even some people who are not asexual do not enjoy sex for various reasons.
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Old Sep 25, 2012, 08:55 PM
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You don't like sex because men have abused you. I don't blame u for not wanting sex with a man. But I don't think that means you are bi
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Old Sep 26, 2012, 06:45 AM
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You don't like sex because men have abused you. I don't blame u for not wanting sex with a man. But I don't think that means you are bi
Yes i think the same, also she is so young, she is scared of men.
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Old Sep 26, 2012, 06:51 AM
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Yes i think the same, also she is so young, she is scared of men.
Don't like men
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