I cannot tell when the guy comes

Exactly - curiouser and curiouser/

I usually know when my husband comes inside me. His rhythm changes. Sometimes I can actually feel him throb I think. It gives me great pleasure to know that I have satisfied him, I like him to stay connected as long as possible. I realize though that all of us are different

Initially I asked on this board about a guy who would not come at all. Erections but not ejaculations. This one at least does come. Just quietly, but he does.

So I think that I have been making progress in the right direction in recent months.

All men are different, just like all women are different. I have an insatiable sexual appetite but can only express it when I am with someone I love. I have been married 3 (going on 4) times. I am a huggy person, but I also enjoy touch human or animal, maybe because I am a child of nature (pagan). My mate is very accommodating to my insatiable appetite. And as far as my experiences with the men I have been with the spouses and 3 others. Two were roarers, 3 were moderate, 1 was very quiet and the last I don't care to recall at all. It all depends on how they were raised and the environment in which the grow up in.

Really? I cannot see the difference between the roarer and the quiet one in my own small sample. Same demographic makeup, more or less.

Probably it is more about personality than where some one was raised. Some make a scene and others come more quietly. I find pleasure in intercourse itself, without worrying when my man comes as long as it is not premature ejaculation, which I think is maybe the bigger issue

I think us ladies are the same way. Some of us are screamers, others of us are not. Some of us reserved others not so much. As long as you get what you need and he gets what he needs there is no reason to worry about why one is noisy or not so much.

It also changes within the same lady - I have become much louder over the years.

cool, so there is hope yet. I am reserved. silent. But H gets it right. Somehow he figures it out. So praise the lord. I'm reserved and quiet in most all I do.

I remember when I was having child number 3 and I asked for drugs the Dr. said why your not even screaming yet. ( Asswhole, squeeze a watermelon out of there and you might scream or it might hurt to freken bad to scream.)

So in other words some of us are screamers others of us are not. I'm not. We also have 3 kids and to much noise will alert the tribe. Your 30 sec of fun is over because one just can't be quiet. The surroundings and circumstances make alot of difference to.

That too. I just have three cats. When I had little children, I kept my mouth tightly shut, to avoid screaming.

kitties are lots less bothered. got to watch out for those kids though

Kitties differ in their reactions. Tommy, my largest cat who is all black, comes to watch. The lady kitties do not care. And Tommy is only interested in watching partner sex. He cannot care less for masturbation. He needs real action.

Boys they are all the same.

Yeah...

All fixed, as you can guess.

But still .

I think I caught a breathing pattern.

if you like a big ending tell the guy to pull out just before he comes, and shower you with white mice then you will no.

unprotected sex?

w hoa he had condom on while sex , this act is on the outer body not internal. plus if is in a relationship i asume they have both been tested.

No, it will continue as a parallel multiple partner situation. But I will thnik about. External contact.

Sorry you lost me there, EXPLAIN

'I have an aversion to touch. I just do not like it. I crave it and need it when I'm upset but don't ask for it or don't want it because I just don't want any part of it.'

It intruiges me how you both crave and detest being touched. I'm much the same. I always have a lust to be touched and cared for by people but at the same time it really creeps me out and I don't want it. Ive thought maybe I want it off some but not others, bit like you say about it being specific to adult males. But to be honest I'm not sure. My abuse was complicated and involved a number of different people, different ages and sexes. So I can't narrow it down. I think its more the mindset I'm in at the time. A bit like what you said about when you're upset, you crave being touched. When I feel shakey or scared and when I talk about my past SA I always find myself folding in on my self and I dont want any one to touch me. But sometimes I do, I want to be touched in a normal way and learn what this is like and that its fine. But its still very hard to know where the line sits.

Sorry this is a bit of an aside from the original post but it interested me.

I meant that I would think about implementing your proposal if it is possible to do so without getting his sperm into my mouth.

If you definitely like to be touched in a normal way without anything to trigger past SA, get a cat.

I especially like using the laptop on the floor and having the cats sit on my tush, back, and legs. I also like it when my cats wake me up in the morning to encourage me to fulfill my purpose in life (=give them breakfast). It feels much nicer than the horrible sound of the alarm.

That,s up to you , keep your mouth shut or tell him not to aim so high, It will solve your problem of knowing if he has come or not.

I told him that I am glad that I can actually tell from his breathing pattern, and he replied that I should be more egocentric and think about my own needs and showing him how to meet said needs better.

So very altruistic on his part.