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hamster-bamster · Apr 10, 2013, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by olive98

oh it would be depressing if i marry and then end up not being able to kiss/cuddle a lot.

i guess thats why people have affairs

and now that i think of it its tricky if you get married and still feel weak legs around hot guys. it happens to me a lot and i hope it stops happening after i marry.

Your plan is to use marriage as a tool to accomplish two things:

1) have instant and unlimited access to kissing and cuddling with the future husband

2) (probably by using (1) above a lot, according to the design you have in mind) stop feeling weak legs around hot guys other than the husband.

All that is OK, no problem with that except see the wikipedia link at the bottom of my post, but you should be aware that people usually have other goals in mind when they marry - they often look for commonality on a non-sexual level, some type of common ground with respect to how to spend time when not cuddling, how to raise children together, etc. In other words, usually people use marriage for more than (1)+(2). To use marriage the way people commonly use it these days, you need to become older, because unless you first become older, you won't be able to know yourself enough to form your opinion on what you need, how you intend to raise your children, etc.

The goal in (1) can be fully met (to the extent that it can possibly be met given the reality of work and dishwashing) by having a live-in boyfriend - marriage is not necessary.

The goal (2) is outside of your control, and it may so happen that you continue to have the feeling of weak legs around hot guys even if you have attained goal (1) (via marriage or cohabitation with a bf).

Because (2) is outside of your control, you should read this:
SMART criteria - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia before you proceed.

olive98 · Apr 11, 2013, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Your plan is to use marriage as a tool to accomplish two things:

1) have instant and unlimited access to kissing and cuddling with the future husband

2) (probably by using (1) above a lot, according to the design you have in mind) stop feeling weak legs around hot guys other than the husband.

All that is OK, no problem with that except see the wikipedia link at the bottom of my post, but you should be aware that people usually have other goals in mind when they marry - they often look for commonality on a non-sexual level, some type of common ground with respect to how to spend time when not cuddling, how to raise children together, etc. In other words, usually people use marriage for more than (1)+(2). To use marriage the way people commonly use it these days, you need to become older, because unless you first become older, you won't be able to know yourself enough to form your opinion on what you need, how you intend to raise your children, etc.

The goal in (1) can be fully met (to the extent that it can possibly be met given the reality of work and dishwashing) by having a live-in boyfriend - marriage is not necessary.

The goal (2) is outside of your control, and it may so happen that you continue to have the feeling of weak legs around hot guys even if you have attained goal (1) (via marriage or cohabitation with a bf).

Because (2) is outside of your control, you should read this:
SMART criteria - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia before you proceed.

Its pretty complicated

but i think i get it

and thanks for explaining it, you are so nice

I'm ok with non-sexual because hugs and kisses are more for a 'love' feeling i think

I would love to have babies no problem

Those SMART criteria questions are interesting!

What: What do I want to accomplish? hug/kiss as much as possible [best feeling in the world!]
Why: so i am happy!
Who: Who is involved? my boss [he lives next door, i babysit there]
Where: Identify a location: his home/knee
Which: Identify requirements and constraints: problem is i'd like to be with him always but he is at work a lot...

hamster-bamster · Apr 11, 2013, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by olive98

[*]Which: Identify requirements and constraints: problem is i'd like to be with him always but he is at work a lot...[/LIST]

He is also not quite forthcoming because he does not want to cross the line into criminal behavior

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olive98 · Apr 11, 2013, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

He is also not quite forthcoming because he does not want to cross the line into criminal behavior

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yep its more longterm plan. but i never thought about it until now the way he might be at work always and not there to kiss/hug, so that's pretty bad for me

THE16THDOCTOR · Apr 11, 2013, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by olive98

you are probably right hambam

but when i cuddle with guys they use hands/tongue/lips but its when they have erections under my lap lol. i always wondered if guys still like girls at all after their erections burst. if they still like girls after then i agree they would use their hands/tongue/lips!

when i get married i will have more time with a man like all day in bed and will test to see if he likes using his hands/tongue/lip after his lap has burst etc.

Im going to use lap has burst all the time now lol

olive98 · Apr 11, 2013, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by THE16THDOCTOR

Im going to use lap has burst all the time now lol

DOCTORs are nice, when ever i talk to them they are warm

but its ironic because in the waiting room its kind of cold lol.

THE16THDOCTOR · Apr 11, 2013, 01:34 PM

Haha I'm very warm. Not a real doctor.

Male UK · May 02, 2013, 07:43 AM

Thank you for starting this thread.
I have exactly the same problem, and I'm in my 30s - please see http://forums.psychcentral.com/sexua...ions-33-a.html
How is it all going now?

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