[GirlOfManyFaces]

I've know for years that I liked girls. And guys too. But most of the time I act boy crazy to hid the fact there is a hot girl in the room. My parents are SOOOO judgey. My dad hates everybody who he thinks is abnormal. Sometimes he is even racist. Which I am NOT okay with. I'm like the most loving person ever. I don't really believe in hating people. So I tend to have crushes on people very easily.
I'm conflicted because I am a Christian and I love God. It's a sin to be gay but my argument is that all sins are equal. Lies are sins. I lie every day.so why can't I be Bisexual? I know it's a sin but God is forgiving. So He will love me regardless right? I don't know.
I just know I love girls and guys and I don't want to hid part of who I am. I want to tell my parents but Im afraid they will shun me or send me to a psych doctor because they will think I'm messed up. I just really want to be accepted for all of me. And I want to meet somebody. You can't really go around asking people if they're bi or lesbian. I really want to meet a girl. Guys have never treated me well and I'm sick of it. And I don't want to be alone.
Is there any way to meet a bi/lesbian person?

(Sorry if I rambled, thank you for reading)

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by GirlOfManyFaces

I want to tell my parents but Im afraid they will shun me or send me to a psych doctor because they will think I'm messed up.

Your parents might well shun you - you know them well so you can easily predict their response.

Psych doctors do not treat lesbians as people who are "messed up" - in the US they have not since the mid-1970s:

- Sexual orientation, homosexuality and bisexuality (psychologists)
- APA Position Statements | psychiatry.org (psychiatrists; search for "homosexuality" to see the relevant position statements)

[doggiedo]

I think you are a very strong person. I'm not sure if I have advice for you, but I do understand your concern....

[Ultra Darkness]

Originally Posted by GirlOfManyFaces

I've know for years that I liked girls. And guys too. But most of the time I act boy crazy to hid the fact there is a hot girl in the room. My parents are SOOOO judgey. My dad hates everybody who he thinks is abnormal. Sometimes he is even racist. Which I am NOT okay with. I'm like the most loving person ever. I don't really believe in hating people. So I tend to have crushes on people very easily.
I'm conflicted because I am a Christian and I love God. It's a sin to be gay but my argument is that all sins are equal. Lies are sins. I lie every day.so why can't I be Bisexual? I know it's a sin but God is forgiving. So He will love me regardless right? I don't know.
I just know I love girls and guys and I don't want to hid part of who I am. I want to tell my parents but Im afraid they will shun me or send me to a psych doctor because they will think I'm messed up. I just really want to be accepted for all of me. And I want to meet somebody. You can't really go around asking people if they're bi or lesbian. I really want to meet a girl. Guys have never treated me well and I'm sick of it. And I don't want to be alone.
Is there any way to meet a bi/lesbian person?

(Sorry if I rambled, thank you for reading)

According to a test I took the other day, three of my top 5 character strengths are Forgiving, Honesty, and Kindness, which is pretty accurate, so I can easily see why this is hard for you.
First off, I'm sure you can be forgiven for being bisexual. It certainly wouldn't be fair to blame you for something you couldn't control, and I do not believe we influence our sexuality. I don't care about people who say that we can choose to be whatever we want, because sometimes that just isn't true.
Nor do I think you should tell your parents. Not if it will endanger you in any way.

Whatever happens, don't ever be ashamed of who you are. Not many people are so selfless and loving, and even fewer can hold onto that when things get tough.
I hope this helped.

[hamster-bamster]

I also see no purpose whatsoever in telling your parents.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Your parents might well shun you - you know them well so you can easily predict their response.

Psych doctors do not treat lesbians as people who are "messed up" - in the US they have not since the mid-1970s:

Thank you. It's good to know that

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

Whatever happens, don't ever be ashamed of who you are. Not many people are so selfless and loving, and even fewer can hold onto that when things get tough.
I hope this helped.

Thank you soooo much. You are always helpful and encouraging. I just don't know what to do. But I guess all I can do is leave it be

[Harley47]

I echo much of the advice here. It's unfortunate your dad is so unaccepting in this day and age, but some are simply...set in their ways, I suppose.

But while I'm not an authority in the matter, I don't think God is going to frown upon you for this Girl. Keep in mind, the only place in the Bible that mentions homosexuality (I believe at all, tbqh) is in Leviticus, in the Old Testament. Leviticus means "for the Levites," which were an ancient sect of Jewish priests. lol It's the same book that forbids tattoos, the cutting of hair, and the consumption of shellfish. Were I you, I'd remind anyone who would condemn you for bisexuality that they're just as "guilty" as you are every time they have a shrimp or go for a trim. In my opinion, I do not believe that a Christian life and the LGBT lifestyle are mutually exclusive.

I can't be of much help towards how to find someone, but I wanted to at the very least extend the above, and wish you all of the best and many hugs.

Hugs,
Harley

[Sweet tea]

There are online dating services you could try. (for Lesbians and bi-sexual women). I wish you much luck.