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As I said before in my first post, I came here in the hopes of getting help with some issues. I would really like someone to help me overcome some of the problems I have.
These problems, as I mentioned, are I get times where I become extremely turned on by sexual things mostly seen as wrong. I don't know why this happens and on other days I am completely against it. It repulses me. I don't know what to do about it, and after it happened last night I completely broke down and decided to try and find some help, which is difficult to do considering the problem. I guess what I am trying to say is these are things I cannot discuss with others, as I don't want anyone to dislike or not be my friend anymore. I don't have any in person friends as it is, and losing the good ones I made online will really be bad for me. I would really like someone to help me get better, as I cannot do this on my own. I tried, and failed a lot of times. Seeing a doctor is out of the question due to financial problems and also not having the guts to say these things to someone's face. Is there anyone willing to help me with this out there? |
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Do you mean that you are turned on by things that are WRONG e.g. children (if so then you DO need to see a professional), or by things odd or unconventional. There are a lot of different fetishes out there which some people may find "unpleasant" (which is maybe where you're getting the revulsion from) but which are harmless and a lot of other people may see as nothing to worry about. You may be being a little hard on yourself and if you discuss it with the right people they may understand completely.
If it's any help though, and you're certain your friends would disapprove, at the end of the day your sexual inclinations are your own business and you have every right to keep them private. Your friends should judge you more on the person you are in their lives than on private issues you wish to keep to yourself. |
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I will be happy to try to help you.
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He who angers you controls you! |
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#5
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Thank you I would appreciate it so much.
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I wouldn't call your thoughts abnormal or repulsive and as you said you wanted to get better it's certainly not an "illness" (although I understand it may feel that way to you with your families views).
Thoughts like that are probably a lot more common for people than you think but they don't necessarily mean that to be happy you would need to be in a relationship with a woman. You could try to turn your thoughts when you are feeling turned on by thinking of a woman to a man you see as attractive instead but if this is difficult then I wouldn't worry. If it helps at all you wouldn't necessarily be hiding these thoughts from your family you just wouldn't be telling them, after all if you fantasized about a naked man/men you probably wouldn't be telling your family about that either? as it would be personal. As for others/friends outside your culture/religion then they may well be less judgemental. You could maybe subtly find out what they think by "asking advise for a friend" if the risk of loosing them really bothers you- but again it is personal if you don't want to tell them. Friends don't need to tell each other everything to be friends. |
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It isn't really as much a concern to what others think, like you said I'm not going to be discussing my sex life with others. What does bother me is thse things aren't okay in my own eyes either. I don't have anything against gay people, but that isn't what I was brought up like and also not in my faith. These fantasies didn't always stay that way. What also gets me is the fact that I always want it, whether it be night or day, morning or evening. There really isn't any stop to it.
Although I do think incest is repulsive. Which is what concerns me more than the naked women thing. |
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If you're really uncomfortable with them is there anything you could use to distract yourself immediately these thoughts come up e.g phone someone up for a chat (you don't have to tell them why!) something that you have to pay attention to if only for a little while. The thoughts may well keep on coming but become less absorbing or regular if you get into the habit.
Are you in a relationship with anyone at the moment- if not then when you are the thoughts may lessen if its any consolation. If you are is there anything you could think of to make the relationship more "stimulating". |
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OK, now I see what you think your issue is. I think you should just accept yourself as you are and stop trying to change the way you are, and that approach would bring you instant peace.
Good luck. |
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Whenever I have disturbing thoughts, I take a cold shower. It usually shocks me into a different state of mind.
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