[hamster-bamster]

Posting in two forums: anxiety and sex issues.

Yesterday night I started feeling sharp pain in the heart area, as if my heart were being pressed on, squeezed, etc. I also felt rapid heart beat (did not measure it). It happened after two orgasms - the first one from my partner's hands and the second on from my masturbating in his arms. It was not clear to me what to do - to have more orgasms or stop? I stopped. I did not tell him because I wanted to ask this question first.

That kind of pain that is sharp and very narrowly located in the heart area (nothing unusual felt outside of the heart area) is a manifestation of anxiety, and I know it very well. It has been explained to me by a p-doc that REAL heart problems do not even manifest themselves in the pain inside the heart - heart attacks manifest themselves via pain in other regions of the body.

I did not have difficulty breathing and I was able to speak at the normal conversational pace.

I knew that I was not in danger. But it felt scary - meaning, had I not been instructed multiple times beforehand that anxiety/panic attacks are not dangerous, I would have felt quite scared, because the pain was sharp and pointed.

I fell asleep eventually and feel fine today.

But I wonder what would have happened had I not stopped but, rather, had more orgasms. Next time it happens, what should I do? Stop or go? Would continuing having orgasms relieve or exacerbate the pain? Likewise, would continuing having orgasms make my heart beat even more rapidly?

The sensation of rapid heart beat was a bit scary in and of itself.

There was no reason to feel anxious that I was aware of. We were at my partner's place, business as usual, nothing to be scared of.

Now that I have described this pain, I am feeling it again, except now it is subdued.

[Webgoji]

Angina maybe?

Of course I'm the guy that wouldn't go to the doctor until my appendix was the size of a baseball, so my opinion may not be the best to consider.

[healingme4me]

Ham-Bam, I responded in Anxiety. But wanted to ask, do you have any meds that treat your anxiety?

[hamster-bamster]

No, I do not have anxiolytics. I've tried Clonazepam and Lorazepam and Valium in the past - they do not do much. But come to think of it, I need to find Clonazepam - it is somewhere in the apartment - and at least try it - maybe it will help now.

Come to think of it, maybe it was from general anxiety. I have too many stressful things in my life outside of this relationship - I am waiting for a decision from a school, my daughter has not even said "hi" and "thank you" for her birthday present, one of my cats died on Sunday, another one needed a vet emergency visit yesterday - too many things going on...

...perhaps anxiety can spill over. I was just so confused because I do not have any anxiety with respect to the relationship with the guy himself. It is all outside of the relationship (children, work, school, pets... - the whole nine yards). I guess anxiety is a powerful thing that can affect me at unusual moments and catch me unaware...

[Harley47]

Given all that, I certainly wouldn't rule out anxiety. Coupled with the physical demands of sex, I don't think it'd be much of a stretch to label anxiety the culprit. That said, I'm not a doctor by any means, and I would of course urge you to talk to your doctor about it.

Sorry you've had such a hard time as of late. I do hope things improve soon.

Hugs,
Harley

[hamster-bamster]

thanks...it is just weird, because if I were to rank everything that is going on in my life in terms of how stressful it is, this relationship would be on the very bottom of the list. least stressful, but still.

[Sunflower35]

My guess would be anxiety. I would probably stop to decrease the chances of making the pain more intense.

[Harley47]

It doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is the most stressful thing. It could be the simple fact of the anxiety of everything else, coupled with the minor stress (if any. Making an inference from your post) and the physical activity of sex itself (even if you were to be just laying there, hitting the big O is a surefire way to spike your heart rate) that could produce the pain.

[hamster-bamster]

had solo orgasms without pain last night. so, it is not a permanent problem!