[ArmyTrainer]

I have a few fetishes. One of which has gotten me in trouble since 6 yrs old, until now since I am no longer at home.

I love to dress up in women's lingerie with breast forms.
And I love receiving ****.
And a recent acquisition, I have an untested fantasy of being dominated by a woman. Not necessarily the bondage, whips, leather and latex, but the thought of being overpowered by a woman. By being submissive, and made to feel like the woman.but I still enjoy being the dominate one half the time.

And those make it extremely difficult to find someone, that's not a hardcore dominatrix.

I need advice on how I should deal with this.

[LiteraryLark]

First, I'd like to start off by saying you are not the only person who has fetishes or have this particular fetish. I too, have a fetish that makes it hard to find someone.

Although it's not supposed to be for dating, Fetlife is a great place to start for research. They have forums for those new to the BDSM world (yes, your type of fantasy is part of BDSM even without the whips and chains.) There are people there who are looking for romance, play partners, subs, doms, Masters/Mistresses, anything you can think of. They have groups for people in your area and for people who have the same fetish as you. Some groups are for social get-togethers like bowling, trivia games, and dinners, and some groups are specifically for play.

I would say that unless your fetish is interfering with work or daily activities and you wish to not have these fantasies, I would embrace them. There's no shame in your fantasies no matter how strange. I think that perhaps if you knew that there are many people like you and even women like me who would love to subdue and peg (strap-on sex) men, you would feel much more comfortable in your skin.

[LiteraryLark]

Here's my thread so you can see that you are not the only one struggling with fetishes: http://forums.psychcentral.com/sexua...fetishist.html

Originally Posted by ArmyTrainer

I have a few fetishes. One of which has gotten me in trouble since 6 yrs old, until now since I am no longer at home.

I love to dress up in women's lingerie with breast forms.
And I love receiving ****.
And a recent acquisition, I have an untested fantasy of being dominated by a woman. Not necessarily the bondage, whips, leather and latex, but the thought of being overpowered by a woman. By being submissive, and made to feel like the woman.but I still enjoy being the dominate one half the time.

And those make it extremely difficult to find someone, that's not a hardcore dominatrix.

I need advice on how I should deal with this.

That's something I'm into. And I'm a girl. So there are girls who like that...and I'm not a dominatrix.

I'm just glad there are guys out there who like that.

I hope I can find a guy like you in real life...and I hope you can find a girl like me in real life as well.

[ArmyTrainer]

Originally Posted by DrSkipper

First, I'd like to start off by saying you are not the only person who has fetishes or have this particular fetish. I too, have a fetish that makes it hard to find someone.

Although it's not supposed to be for dating, Fetlife is a great place to start for research. They have forums for those new to the BDSM world (yes, your type of fantasy is part of BDSM even without the whips and chains.) There are people there who are looking for romance, play partners, subs, doms, Masters/Mistresses, anything you can think of. They have groups for people in your area and for people who have the same fetish as you. Some groups are for social get-togethers like bowling, trivia games, and dinners, and some groups are specifically for play.

I would say that unless your fetish is interfering with work or daily activities and you wish to not have these fantasies, I would embrace them. There's no shame in your fantasies no matter how strange. I think that perhaps if you knew that there are many people like you and even women like me who would love to subdue and peg (strap-on sex) men, you would feel much more comfortable in your skin.

well, you say on one of your posts that its a uniform fetish that you have. how do you feel about people who actually wear military uniforms for a living, and have interesting fetishes. I only wonder because I do wear a military uniform 5 out of 7 days a week.