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Old Sep 12, 2013, 06:59 PM
AppalachianAxis AppalachianAxis is offline
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So, this is incredibly awkward for me to talk about. Thank goodness for internet anonymity right?

Here's the thing, I find guy's bodies attractive, like, really attractive. This is something I discovered about myself in private via porn sites and the like. I found myself drifting more and more towards gay material when I indulged in such things.

But here's where it gets a bit odd I think. The moment a guy's face comes into view, I lose every single possible ounce of attraction I had only a moment ago.
I'm so completely reviled, it's actually kindda funny. The moment a see a dude's face I just snap. "Ew!" I think to myself, "You're a guy. You're a person, with feelings and stuff." I don't find men to be aesthetically un-appealing otherwise, only in a sexual context. I feel I should also mention that I feel no emotional attraction to men whatsoever.

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Old Sep 12, 2013, 08:38 PM
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I can relate, I might consider myself bi-sexual but Im only sexually attracted to girl. I don't become weirded out when I see a girl's I only think, "Hm, she's pretty. Moving on." I've even dated a girl but disliked it; it was really confusing for me and being long-distance didnt help. I find myself less confused about guys and definitely more attracted to them but I don't try hard to label who I am. My family is really judgemental/anti-gay so maybe there way of thinking is imbedded in my brain. Might be the same for you, your body is catching up to who you really are but your brain just needs some time.
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Old Feb 24, 2014, 08:49 PM
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Well, it's still weird. I mean, I never ever see a guy in real life and think anything along the lines of "He's cute/handsome/etc." But when I do indulge in pornography, it's almost exclusively gay content. This is something that's been going on for years, it's been the norm for so long that I didn't ever stop to think anything was odd. In fact, it's pretty rare for girls to show up! But that whole thing with the faces remains. The second I see a guys face, it's all over; I'm totally grossed out. That's probably why I tend to lean towards animated/drawn stuff it's not "real" so it doesn't carry the revulsion factor. Idk.
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Old Feb 25, 2014, 07:21 AM
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Well, sexuality isn't black or white. There's a whole spectrum, not just straight, bi or gay. My wife for example is a little bit bi-curious. She likes watching two women together, but would never consider actually being with a woman.

It sounds like you are like this yourself. Don't worry about it and don't worry about trying to force yourself into nice little category. There's something you like about the male anatomy at a fantasy level and that's just fine.
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Old Feb 25, 2014, 08:02 AM
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Well, sexuality isn't black or white. There's a whole spectrum, not just straight, bi or gay. My wife for example is a little bit bi-curious. She likes watching two women together, but would never consider actually being with a woman.

It sounds like you are like this yourself. Don't worry about it and don't worry about trying to force yourself into nice little category. There's something you like about the male anatomy at a fantasy level and that's just fine.
Totally agree, sexuality come in many varieties!

I wouldn't think too much into it I think also it depends on your age and that. I went through a bi phase of fancying women and even had a girlfriend but found out I wasn't really and went back to men. I was finding myself and maybe that's what you're doing too
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Old Feb 25, 2014, 08:59 AM
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There's nothing wrong with that. Geez, compared to what I'm into, it's very sane. I am gay but that's not the whole story, so you get no judgment from me -and I agree: Sexuality is very diverse and there's a lot of gray area and complexities. Like what you like and don't be ashamed.
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Old Feb 25, 2014, 10:56 AM
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I actually relate to this a lot. I always considered myself a heterosexual female, but when it comes to porn the majority of what I watch is lesbian. However, I don't get turned off by the face (unless she's got a ridiculous amount of makeup or something)

I still kind of struggle with what my sexuality would be considered and want to have sex with a woman someday to really be sure, but I've recently come to accept that on some level I am attracted to women. I realized that when I started checking girls out in public..
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Old Feb 25, 2014, 11:48 PM
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Thanks everybody!
I didn't mean to say I thought something was "wrong" exactly. It's just kind of odd. But I suppose it just is what it is.
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