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Old Dec 17, 2013, 09:35 AM
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I have been in a relationship with my guy for 7 years and sex is great, but my guy doesn't have a fetish or a fantasy and its kind of keeping us in a stage of vanilla. He never surprises me, but he does have a way of dominating me that I just love. In recent months, I have tried to get him into BDSM but as I said he isn't a fetish or fantasy kind of guy and every time I bring up a small aspect, I get a big N O. For all intents and purposes, to me he is my master, but he wants no part of it. I don't want to cheat on him in any way shape or form. I just want to be dominated and at this point I don't know what to do. If anyone has any advice, PLEASE leave a comment.

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Old Dec 17, 2013, 12:48 PM
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I don't think there is much else you can do other than what you've already done. You've told him what you like and unless he changes his mind at some point I think ultimately you're going to have to accept him for who he is. Otherwise, you will have to choose what is more important to you.
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Old Dec 17, 2013, 01:37 PM
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I pretty much agree with arachnophobia.kid...

You made it clear to him what you wanted. He said "No". Unless the leopard suddenly decides to change his spots, I'm afraid that "No" means "No". You can't make someone want something they don't want... You may be able to somehow convince him to go along with you, but if he doesn't like it, would you still be able to enjoy it? Probably not.

You have an important decision to make... You'll have to choose what's more important to you.
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