Confused doesn't even begin to describe...

I am really confused at the moment...let me explain..

I think I might be bi-sexual, I've never thought about it before but suddenly today I've just had it on my mind.. A lot

You see my boyfriend and I were joking around about a threesome,with him myself and another girl and I was like- "eeww"- never going to happen. But I've thought about it and I've had fantasies about girls before... I mean, just the basics- but I've thought about kissing one of my close girlfriends and wondering what it would be like.

I think girls bodies are gorgeous and I am not repulsed by naked girls but I also find male bodies gorgeous...both attract me.

The problem is: when someone speaks about being bi-sexual I feel like I should be getting it out of my mind instead of being interested...

I never thought I was bi but now maybe I think I am...I don't know

Don't think there's any harm in experimenting.

It's very easy for me to say that, but really, I have a hard time with my 'confusion', myself. I know it's not easy for you.

Sexuality is fluid. Don't label urself.
I know I'm a lesbian just the idea of sex with a man repulses me. Don't get me wrong I have had sex with men but never liked it. But with women it felt right.

With the social acceptance of homosexuality changing in our favors more ppl are going to experiment. More ppl will come out. And more ppl will be protected.

Just remember with threesomes there's always risk. Make sure u create a line with him that neither of u will cross. And u need complete trust in each other.

Or u could always just have him watch.

I agree completely, don't worry about trying to fit into a nice little category. Sexuality is a sliding scale. You might fall somewhere between straight and bisexual and that's okay. You don't have to be one or the other. Just be who you are.


And I also agree about the threesomes being a risk. Maybe you could start with something like just watching "girl on girl" porn together with your boyfriend first and see how that goes? Then go from there.

I would like to see what this is, and I know my boyfriend would absolutely love it... But I come from a staunch family who do not agree with the whole experimenting or same gender interest...don't get me wrong they have nothing against people who are in those relationships but they will die a thousand deaths if they find out their only daughter is into it too..

I have watched girl with girl...and I am turned on by it but I have also watched guy with guy and am turned on by that too...does that make me a freak??

Thank you for all your advice...and help, its good to know that there are people who will not judge you by your preferences!!

Happily married here,

but me too.....guys and guys, girls and guys, girls and girls.

When it comes to threesomes....I think it's important to all be on the same page. Have some rules that you and your boyfriend and the other woman agree upon...for example if you don't want your boyfriend to...well....penetrate the other woman, then make that clear. And respect her boundaries, too.
Enjoy.

Umm P.S. what happens in your bedroom is your own business, not your families....In fact best not think of them at all

You are cohabiting with a bf, right? Not married, but sexually active. And the family members are ok with it, so they are not that staunch - they are already a notch down from the extreme of being staunch. So if you ever need to come out, they won't die a thousand deaths - you will simply tell them to jump a few notches down and away from the extreme. But that only in distant future if you must come out (say, if you decide to have a household in a triad fashion and not a threesome behind close doors). That doesn't seem terribly likely, so just relax.

Darklady

I am a lesbian as previously stated, and am totally out of the closet to everyone but my parents. I feel all they did was break me as a child with their right wing crap and they never cared about knowing me before so y should I give them the time of day now to know me?

I never bothered to out myself to them since I do not even speak with them. Everyone else that does know me and knows don't care. It's not what defines me. I am engaged to my future wife awaiting legalizing of same sex marriage, my parents don't know. I told my sister she says she's ok with it but her action don't seem ok. That's her issue though that she can't accept my finding someone who is for me. My sis is a big princess in her mind and doesn't like it when any attention is diverted for her.

The pt is u can't allow ur families view of anything dictate ur life. U are u. U are not them and u have the right to live how u choose and not give them ur life to use as they see fit. They are not in ur bedroom so they shouldn't know. I tell the same thing to heterosexuals who raise issue if I walk hand in hand with my future wife. Am I in ur bedroom? No, stay out of mine.

No, I don't live with my boyfriend. My parents are Christan and do not nelieve in living together before marriage also they do not know about our bedroom life, they do not believe in sex before marriage either so it is very difficult for me... So I don't live with him and they don't knoww the other details-that presents dilemma one, dilemma two is if I am interested in same sex relationships they won't tone it done with the dislike they don't like that..

As I said earlier, I do not live with my bf and my parents wouldn't allow it anyway. But as for the bedroom we do keep it to ourselves, I don't like the secrets but I couldn't tell them as they'd be so upset and angry...I don't want that.

I don't want to lose contact either. I love my parents so much, yes their views are narrow minded but they rescued me from a horrible world and made me safe, the fact that I am not like them will hurt them which I don't want to do...

But I am interested in exploring so I guess it will all remain a secret and if I do find that I am bi, it would probably never be something I'd reveal...

Not to butt in, but if you are an adult....as I said, you need to form own moral yardstick, in my opinion.
And, also in my opinion...a threeway does not necessarily equal a "relationship". You may like it, you many not. It's simply a taste of something that you find appealing....