My sexual issues

Hi,

I am a 21 year-old healthy male. I am in my third year of college. I haven't had sex since I have been to college and I think it has taken a toll on my mental health. I had 2 sexual partners in high school and never had any mental health issues. With both of those girls, I had problems getting an erection when we first tried having se, but they both gave me several chances, and I eventually overcame the problem.
Since I have been in college, I have not had sex, but I have had no less than 6 girls lying in my bed, naked, wanting me to have sex with them and I have been unable to get an erection. Perhaps it is the casual sexual environment of the college I go to, but these girls did not give me multiple chances to get an erection and all ended things with me quickly. I think all these failures have taken a major toll on my self-esteem. Nowadays I don't pursue girls near as much as I used to because I know the failure is inevitable once I get them in bed. Being around friends that have multiple sexual partners doesn't help either. I am seeing a psychologist and have told him all this, but I haven't been able to stop being depressed.
I have the feeling in the back of my head that if I was able to break "the curse" and finally have sex again, all my mental health issues would go away and I would have some confidence. I don't know if it will ever happen, though.

What do I do?

I sounds like you've got a lot of pressure on you to "perform" which is making things worse. Depression can also cause it as well.

My suggestion would be to quit worrying about just having sex. Start to develop a relationship. Go on a date, be a gentleman, have dinner, be a gentleman, go to the club ... you know, meet a decent girl and actually get to know each other. Take your time and really become comfortable with each other and excited by each other. Then, when the time is right, there should be less performance pressure and things may go more smoothly.

You're still young, but you might also get your testosterone levels checked. Also, college can cause a lot of stress (at least it did for me), that can also cause problems.

So like I said, relax and start dating instead of just hooking up. When it's all said and done you may have developed a strong, loving relationship while your friends don't have anything but an itchy crotch.