Sexuality Issue

Among other problems, I have an issue with my sexuality that makes me a bit confused. Im a 21 year old male. Growing up as a kid I always thought I was straight, but always had a worry that I might be gay etc. I had a gay experience when I was 12 and it caused some depression and anxiety about sex and masturbation during my high school years. Ive never been in a relationship, and have only had sex with one person a few times when I was 19. That person was a female. I guess I enjoyed it, but there was a lot of anxiety surrounding it. Over the past couple of years Ive had a romantic attraction to a guy and came out due to it. Those feelings are gone now however. I definitely find I have sexual attraction to both sexes, but I don't really have a huge desire to actually have sex with people, there is anxiety there, but there is also an element of just not feeling into it. I definitely want to have a sexual or romantic relationship with someone but I just dont feel as if I connect with people in that way. Im not really sure how to describe my sexuality and I feel as if most women wouldnt be interested in me as I do have gay tendencies haha. I definitely feel more attracted to people romantically as i get to know them more, but they arent really sexual attractions. I just don't know whether this lack of being able to/wanting to get close to people is something that can be cured or if its just who I am. and the actual label of my sexuality I feel limits me at times. Casual sex is something that Im not against, but I just never feel attracted enough to people to be able to have sex with strangers. And when it comes to sexual attraction I would say just nudity in general turns me on, and maybe even myself somewhat, but its not gender specific.

Hello Problems12: I don't know if I have much of anything in the way of great wisdom to offer here. From my perspective you're just still very young & trying to figure out where you're most comfortable on the sexuality scale. At the two ends of the scale are male & female. But there's lots of room in between too. Many people are attracted to both sexes. Some are sexually attracted to none. There are lots of different ways that these factors can combine. I think the important thing here is not to worry about it. Just let things settle out over time as they will. Resist the urge to stuff yourself into some pre-fab box created by the society around you.

As far as not being attracted enough to people to be able to have sex with strangers, that's perfectly fine! There's no need to do so. And actually this is a good thing in that you're less likely to get into some unsafe situation.

It may be that you simply haven't met anyone yet who really turns you on! And that's fine too. So I'd say you're doing just fine. Just try not to get worked up over it. It's the apprehension & misguided efforts to conform to some pre-determined standard that are the only potential problems here.