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Old Jul 03, 2014, 07:01 AM
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This can go for the guys as well. What do you guys prefer and why is **** so attracted for men?

I heard some women prefer **** more then vaginal. Why and how come...Im learning here.

My husband has been interested in it from day one. I know nothing. I know a finger back stage is very uncomfortable for me. Doesn't do a thing for me but makes foreplay uncomfortable. Any suggestions?
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Old Jul 03, 2014, 07:24 AM
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This can go for the guys as well. What do you guys prefer and why is **** so attracted for men?
It doesn't hold much attraction for me other than as a novelty. The fact that's it's not the usual entrance point makes it seem or feel more 'hard-core' if you'll pardon the expression. But that's about as far as my interest goes.
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Old Jul 03, 2014, 03:29 PM
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I think rear entry has been over glamorized in porn and that's why so many guys are attracted to it. If someone has been watching something and getting turned on by it then that will be something they think about and want.

Unfortunately that method isn't all that healthy because it can cause fissures, tearing and other injuries.
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Old Jul 03, 2014, 04:31 PM
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My h and I did it twice. I don't think a finger prepares you much. Once he's in it's weird but not painful. I think it was just the novelty. And extra tight
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Old Jul 14, 2014, 09:11 PM
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I can't tell you why guys want **** sex. I'm not even sure that that many guys do want **** sex. All I know for sure is that I sometimes crave **** sex, and have since I was about 10 years old. I know that I get turned on big time when my wife caresses my ****, and when she lets me get close to hers (although she says a firm "No" to actual penetration with my finger or penis). I suppose my fetishes, which include urophilia and coprophilia, make it dead certain that I would be interested in **** sex.

I don't think that anyone can say exactly why any physical sensation feels good or doesn't, except that it feels good, or it doesn't. When I'm making love with my wife, I want her to touch me in ways that she has learned that I like, and she wants me to touch her in ways that I have learned she likes. It doesn't matter why we like what we like. However, if you are uncomfortable with **** sex you shouldn't agree to do it. And there's this: gentle, slow, and well lubed exploration should be comfortable and should reveal whether you can enjoy it, or not.

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P.S. I wonder why we aren't allowed to use "certain words," but have to put up with asterisks.
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Old Jul 14, 2014, 09:46 PM
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I'm not particularly into it. There are definitely "pleasure" nerves in the area. Some women who don't like **** sex seem to love oral play there and some shallow penetration. Hygiene is obviously very important On the other hand I've known a few women who seemed to think men like a little **** penetration due to the locale of the prostate gland. Doesn't do anything for me though. I'm old enough to remember digital rectal exams for prostate cancer. Ouch!
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Old Jul 14, 2014, 09:48 PM
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Why can we write vaginal but not **** ? What?
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Old Jul 21, 2014, 11:30 PM
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In my experience it is because it's taboo people seem to find it more exciting.

If you read other posts in this thread they mention that we cannot even use the name of the act in a sexual and gender issues forum, but is it because it's not allowed that's making me want to say it more ?
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Old Jul 22, 2014, 12:24 AM
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It is something that requires trust, patience and lots of lube. When I was in the right mood I enjoyed receiving and giving (got me a strap-on). I like variety in sex so I don't get bored.
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Old Jul 22, 2014, 11:06 AM
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I was told it is very enjoyable.
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Okay, going to get awful personal here, so please no judging.

I've never had sex with anyone, but I do consider myself bi-curious. So I've, uh, purchased some toys in the past. Toys based on, erm, male anatomy.
And, yeah, they went up my butt.
And it felt incredible. I thought that surely it wouldn't feel like it seemed to feel to pornstars or whatever, but it really did. Never felt anything like it.
So, I can easily see from my experience why some would like it, or prefer it even.
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Old Jul 22, 2014, 02:55 PM
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It really is a case of either love it or hate it but if your going to try it should be done with lots of care and patients.

My first experience of it was by surprise so I was not prepared and tensed up and it put me off for several years however with the right kind of person I have realised the pleasure was worth giving it another go at
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Old Jul 24, 2014, 11:38 AM
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Okay, going to get awful personal here, so please no judging.

I've never had sex with anyone, but I do consider myself bi-curious. So I've, uh, purchased some toys in the past. Toys based on, erm, male anatomy.
And, yeah, they went up my butt.
And it felt incredible. I thought that surely it wouldn't feel like it seemed to feel to pornstars or whatever, but it really did. Never felt anything like it.
So, I can easily see from my experience why some would like it, or prefer it even.
I think thats a great Idea.
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Old Aug 11, 2014, 10:41 PM
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My boyfriend explains his interest in **** as being a result of the increased tightness and the dirty desire to "[penetrate] ALL the holes." (he admits he likes the concept in a perverted way.)

I hate it. It hurts, even with lube, even slowly, even in different positions. I am so tired of seeing so many Cosmo and Cosmo-esque woman's-sex-advice magazines and sites writing articles about opening your mind to **** and how 'pleasurable' it can be. My BF doesn't ask for it often, but I offer it a couple times a year because I want him to have what he enjoys.

Imagine the biggest crap you've ever taken, now imagine t igoing back into your butt hole, then back out, and then back in. That's what it feels like -- a never ending crap.
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Old Aug 13, 2014, 11:14 AM
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I prefer vaginal sex. **** sex is hyped up and that's partly because of how it's shown in porn and it's one of those thing to try once before you die type of things. But I found it hurt my penis whenever I had **** sex.

Just edited that in case some of you got the wrong idea.

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Old Aug 13, 2014, 12:33 PM
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Oogh, the thought of **** makes me wince.

I would figure that it would hurt more since it there would be no lube like you would have in vaginal.

There have also been medical stories of the rectum being torn apart in **** sex.

I would imagine how much pain someone would be in if this happened. shuddering
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Old Aug 13, 2014, 04:53 PM
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Sounds like a colonoscopy without the camera to me . My thing is more the hygiene, I mean if you put a penis up there, you kinda rinse it afterwards or whatever, but what I can't fathom is what you see in porn where some people actually do oral there! So-called "rimming". That person must really want to get in the other's good books because that literally makes them a genuine ***-kisser. I can't see the use of this type of sex, apart from the fact that it's tighter or grips the penis a lot harder, other than that it's pointless (or hollow, haha).

Oh, and BTW, why is <----LANA<---- a swearword?
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Old Aug 13, 2014, 11:54 PM
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Oogh, the thought of **** makes me wince.

I would figure that it would hurt more since it there would be no lube like you would have in vaginal.
shuddering
That's why you add artificial personal lubricant into the mix.
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I could never... *shudders*
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Old Aug 14, 2014, 03:04 AM
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Tips for successful a-nal

Wear a condom to protect the penis from the bacterial flora.

Remove the condom and ensure the penis is clean before doing vaginal penetration again.

Use KY jelly for lubrication rather than petroleum products like Vaseline which can damage the condoms.

The person receiving is in charge of how quickly to proceed with the action. Start slowly; sometimes it takes ten minutes or so to relax and proceed fully so again trust/patience is very important.

If it isn't your thing, that's okay. I could only do it with one man though others asked.
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Why can we write vaginal but not **** ? What?
LOL You are so right with that observation.

I wonder why PC will let me post about wanting to give my dr a bj, yet I get threads closed for being an atheist. Somehow the bj is OK.
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Old Aug 15, 2014, 01:37 PM
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My partner would like to penetrate me there but it didn't do much for me. Initially you have to get over the feeling that you want to go to the toilet, because that's what it feels like.
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Old Aug 15, 2014, 03:50 PM
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My partner would like to penetrate me there but it didn't do much for me. Initially you have to get over the feeling that you want to go to the toilet, because that's what it feels like.
Ive thought the same thing.
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Im a fan of vaginal. I think the only thing that might change that is if my partner started asking for **** sex
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This can go for the guys as well. What do you guys prefer and why is **** so attracted for men?

I heard some women prefer **** more then vaginal. Why and how come...Im learning here.

My husband has been interested in it from day one. I know nothing. I know a finger back stage is very uncomfortable for me. Doesn't do a thing for me but makes foreplay uncomfortable. Any suggestions?
I think it's because we always want what we can't have...we crave the forbidden.
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