[littlemissjess]

**This is embarassing for me... and kind of inappropreate, sorry.**

I've been told that during sex girls 'cum. ' I heard it shoots, but I don't know if that's only in pornos or something. I don't know what it's like. I don't know if I've ever 'came' or even had an orgasm.

Not to sound weird but I don't know what's it like.

I've had sex plenty of times but only with the same person. I mean I'm just confuzed. I'm not a sex pro or anything. I'm curious. I don't know what's wrong?

[Raynaadi]

Very few women experience orgasm during intercourse. I only just started experiencing it in the last year, after being sexually active for 7 years. I think it has to do with my being more comfortable with my body and my partner. However many women never achieve orgasm during intercourse. I nearly always have one during foreplay, a clitoral orgasm. I'll get wet when I orgasm, but I've never actually "shot" anything out, that I know of lol.

If you've had one, you'd know. Try having your boyfriend try to bring you to orgasm before sex with his hand....it will also make the sex more enjoyable.

sounds like it might be about lack of appropriate stimulation. if you can figure it out by yourself then you might be better placed to show your boyfriend what he needs to do. once you have that figured out you can practice variations and stuff ;-)

[SecretGarden]

Yes people generally learn about how to orgasm by masturbating and finding out what works for them. Generally there needs to be clitoral stimulation while having intercourse...or while mastubating to have a clitoral orgasm or multiples.

The squirting orgasm that you speak of is also often referred to as female ejaculation. That would be a G-Spot orgasm. First things first. Work on the clitoral orgasm and go from there...

And remember...Pornos are not reality...lol

Enjoy.

This book For Yourself was first published long ago, but it quite a classic. I'd recommend it for any young woman who is just beginning to notice something missing in her sex life! (note you can by a used copy for $4.)

Enjoy,

em

When I became sexually active at 17, for the first year or so, I didn't know whether I'd ever had an orgasm....

...then at one point, I knew I had. Boy did I know, lol.

Trust me, when you have one you know. It just takes some time. Mine did not occur during intercourse.

yes, you will KNOW when it happens................

[drunksunflower]

I cannot remember the percentages, but a large proportion of women are, I believe, more easily stimulated orally than by pentration ...

The other thing is to try different positions ... it depends somewhat on the shape and fit of you to each other (if you know what I mean hehe).

Ummm not to get too graphic but one bf i got better sex from behind, another bf he actually hurt me cos he would bump against my cervix. For him it was better me on top.

Gentle experimentation and plenty of lube ... imo ...

good luck sweetie

[drunksunflower]

Btw I was 16 and my first experience was a very typical, drunk, on the beach (sand up the ***, how romantic), new year's eve, clumsy, teenage romp.

No orgasm there, for sure ... but the next time ... it was a lot different :>

The other thing is that it often takes a bit of time / experimentation to get used to a new partner.

Just don't make babies yet little miss jess, ok!!!!

[SecretGarden]

She is only 16! Let her have an orgasm first.......

[bebop]

lol my mom thought that because I got pregnant I must have had an orgasm lol guess she only had 3 orgasms in her life then lol

[Rhapsody]

YES, this is very normal and it is called: Female Ejaculation, and a female can release fluids any where in the amount of 1/4 cup to 1 quart...... one never knows for everyone is different, so no two females are a like.

..... G-Spot Stimulation generally is the source of this fluid.

..... I have personally experienced this form of orgasm - with in the last two years of my 24 years of being sexually active.

i managed to figure out my g-spot so i can do that. that being said i don't do it very often at all. takes a while and stuff... need to be very aroused. the 'quicky' kinds of clitoral orgasms are enough for me to find some release, really, and that is why i masterbate after all... there is a bit of a literature on how most women find internally stimulated orgasms 'more satisfying'. i personally agree with the sentiment there (feels more intense and stuff), though there is some controversy in the literature (mostly with guys trying to deny this lol!!!)

[Rhapsody]

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i managed to figure out my g-spot so i can do that. that being said i don't do it very often at all. takes a while and stuff... need to be very aroused.

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TRUE..... and I should add that I have this happen when I am with my husband sexually, not alone by myself.

.... my husband finds it very exciting and stimulating for he knows with out a doubt that I have been pleased - and well lets face it, a man likes to know that he can "Be THE Man" at times like this.......

[SecretGarden]

Agreed that the gspot takes more time and agreed that it is for me the most satisfying and ....ohhhhhhh aahhhhhh relaxing. The clitoral is quicker yes.... and does what it needs to do but if time and inclination is available I love a combo deal.

[Irine]

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Very few women experience orgasm during intercourse.

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REALLY? hummmmm them what`s the point?

[SecretGarden]

The man is having an orgasm and a release.... and actually with appropriate stimulation often the woman will have her orgasm prior to intercourse (sometimes during) and have some satisfaction before hand and after.... Tis a matter of mutual respect and desire for each other to be satisfied. Also, irregardless of orgasm, there can still be the filling that we desire and feelings that are certainly pleasant.

That is what the point is.

[Raynaadi]

Yes, before I started having orgasms during intercourse, I still enjoyed it. It still felt good, and I'd usually have an orgasm before hand. So there was still a point to it. I thought I was a lost cause though, thought I'd never actually have one during intercourse. Guess I just had to get comfortable with sex or something. Now its fabulous and I love it with my boyfriend.

[SecretGarden]

Happy for Raynaadi these days.... :-)

[Raynaadi]

Thanks SecretGarden.....me too.

[Juliana]

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Raynaadi said:
Very few women experience orgasm during intercourse.

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REALLY? hummmmm them what`s the point?

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I didn't have even ONE orgasm the whole time I was in my 20s. I had one when I was 16 and then didn't have another one until I was 30. I still enjoyed sex immensely though. It was a difficult issue with my long-time boyfriend. He felt like he wasn't good enough and wasn't satisfying me because I wasn't having orgasms... and then I felt bad about that. It made him feel like he was failing me in some way... and then I felt like I was letting him down by not being "normal."

I think with some women it's just hormonal. I didn't start having orgasms until I was 30. It's so easy with the guy I've been having sex with lately and it's not because he's better in bed than my ex... my body has just changed.

[drunksunflower]

oh god ... i can just have an orgasm off thinking about someone ... when i have it with a partner it is EVEN BETTER ...
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