[irgendwie]

Ever since I came out to my parents, and they coldly rejected me and everything I had said to them, I've been devastatingly depressed. My parents have made and acted on threats, they've taken me to pastors, and have guilt tripped me. I've had to give up all my friends and live in constant fear that they're going to do something drastic to me. I have to constantly live with knowing that they reject me by having them ask when I'm going to get a girlfriend, who I like, and what girls I find "attractive". I have no one in my family to support me and never will. I have no friends left, so I'm basically alone. I've been feeling extremely suicidal, and I'm afraid I'm going to act on these feelings. What do I do? I don't know what to do. I can't say anything at school because nothing will get changed; in fact, it would probably get worse. Someone help me. Please.

[Little Lulu]

So sorry you didn't find a more supportive environment when you came out. We all need support, especially when we are dealing with a big issue like this. What about the school counselor? A neighbor you feel you can trust? A pastor at a church that is more open-minded? On-line support such as GLBT Alliance? A teacher you feel might be supportive?

I think coming out and getting honest about who we are is essential to happiness. You just need someone to be there for you and help you through.

Here is a link to a TED talk about coming out that I found inspiring. Maybe you will find something in it helpful.

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If you are feeling suicidal, please contact someone like the emergency line or a counselor.

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Originally Posted by irgendwie

I have no one in my family to support me and never will. I have no friends left, so I'm basically alone.

I can't say anything at school because nothing will get changed; in fact, it would probably get worse.

You are never alone. It may seem like it now, but, it's not true. You are alone from the people you expect to be there for you ... but, not totally alone.

I think that the real issue here is expectancy. Your parents are expecting you to act/behave a certain way, just as you are expecting others to act a certain way. You even said the word, "changed" when describing how you perceived the reception of your feelings to school.

I know it's hard to realize right now, but, people are really powerful. People have the ability to do or be anything or anyone. They really do. And right now, your parents need you to be strong for them, because they are faltering. They had these expectations of how their child was going to grow up, and who you were going to be ... and you blew all of that out of the water.

I am in now way siding with them, nor you. Rather, I am saying that you are stronger than them right now, because you were able to break through these chains of expectancy. But, they cannot yet.

Yet !!!!!!!!!!!

Have you ever heard the adage: you can't teach an old dog new tricks

Well, it's true. You can't. They love you, they really do. It just takes older people much longer to get over themselves, than it does younger people. One day, you're going to look back on all this and be proud of yourself that you had the courage and strength to carry their baggage for them, while they came around and got a grip on themselves.

My advise to you is to be patient for a while. Don't fight with them, don't argue with them. Remain calm with them. Let them vent all of this out, let them get it all out of their system so that they are able to realize that you are still you, and that you will always be their loving child.

You can be strong to do that. I know you can. One day, you all are going to sit around the dinner table laughing about how you were the grown up here, and how you had to teach them courage.

I promise you, it's worth it. I am a 55 year old woman with a bi-sexual son. And trust me, it took a very long time for me to wrap my mind around this fact about him. And for those months, he had to be the grown up, while I went through all kinds of mental and emotional outbursts.

You love them, and they love you .... you have the ability to help them get through this. They're afraid. Just as you were/are afraid. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I promise you that.

One option would be to call: The Trevor Project. It is an organization that supports LGBTQ youth. The number I have for their hotline is: (866)488-7386. There is also supposedly a crisis chat service at:

Get Help Now | The Trevor Project

If you decide to try either of these & run into any problems let me know, here on PC, & I can double-check the citations.