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Old Dec 13, 2014, 12:09 PM
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Hi, I am a 21 year old male. This summer I got an erection when randomly looking at a young boys legs. I am worried that I might be a pedophile. It might have been a random erection though, since I get random erections everyday. Please don't be rude, thanks.

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Old Dec 13, 2014, 11:15 PM
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well, you dont say how young young is because at 21 you are still young yourself. there is some leeway with the age bracket here. based on one incident, i would not jump to the conclusion that you are a pedophile when you cannot determine if it was a random erection or not. if this becomes a pattern or if you begin to have arousing thoughts about young boys, then you should consider seeking help.
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Old Dec 13, 2014, 11:40 PM
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Hi, I am a 21 year old male. This summer I got an erection when randomly looking at a young boys legs. I am worried that I might be a pedophile. It might have just been a random erection though, since I get random erections everyday. Please don't be rude, thanks.
Hi gayman. I am so sorry that you are struggling...it would seem to me that if you are that worried about it that you are not but I am not an expert. Have you tried talking to a counselor? Pedophilia is a serious thing and you are so young that it is sad to me that you are so concerned...I think it is normal for a young man to have those physical things going on everyday...I have a son that age and he tells his Dad and me that that happens and that could just be a normal thing but it is good to ask if you are concerned....hope this helps....in any case I would ask a professional...
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Old Dec 14, 2014, 12:08 AM
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Hi gayman,

I wouldn't worry about it. The truth of the matter is many men whether gay or straight may have random erections or fantasies of all sorts, but that doesn't automatically label them this or that. When you talk about human sexuality, it is very complex, and sometimes it "misfires", at which point it is possible to make a conscious correction not by fighting it and being scared of it (in fact, if you fight or are scared of it, it is likely to come back to haunt you), but saying, ok, it happened, it is just a thought, a physical manifestation that did not turn into any action. I identified it, and it's simply not my cup of tea. Moving on.

The more you stress about it, the more likely, it will bother you.

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Old Dec 14, 2014, 12:30 AM
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If you are worrying/ruminating on your fear due to a bodily response, probably more of an Am I a pedophile? Or was it just a random erection? obsessive worryAm I a pedophile? Or was it just a random erection? than leading to the path of abusing children.

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Old Dec 14, 2014, 05:46 AM
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Hi,
I do not think so, maybe reading this could be of help POCD vs. Pedophilia | Ask the Therapist
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Old Dec 14, 2014, 09:02 AM
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Before seeking help, in your shoes, I would test it out.

Check out a kid and see if you are aroused again.

If not, then all is well .... if yes, well, then, seek help immediately.
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Old Dec 17, 2014, 02:05 AM
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Hi again. I can add that I'm not attracted to children. I don't have fantasies or desires towards them, and I don't have recurrent sexual urges towards them. So I'm pretty sure I'm not a sick pedo, lol.
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Old Dec 18, 2014, 04:17 AM
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A picture of a kid, not a real one, presumably.
You can get treatment if it is an issue, well done for being so brave and honest.
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Old Dec 19, 2014, 11:24 AM
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Glad you have eliminated this. One thing to remember is not to become very judgmental. Some people develop these "unnatural" feelings as a result of mental illnesses, childhood abuse, etc. So they need help just like many of us here for our problem (anxiety for me). So, the best approach is to be compassionate. Most of us on here are sick one way or another.
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Old Dec 20, 2014, 09:04 AM
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Yeah, Im sorry about that. I agree with you. Have a nice day man
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Old Dec 20, 2014, 10:44 PM
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It's probably POCD I've had the same kind of problem with my kid sister in the past, it's just a bodily response
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Old Dec 22, 2014, 09:55 AM
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I agree that this one incident doesn't make you a pedophile. Like stuck1978 said, human sexuality is a very complex thing. For the first few weeks after my daughter was born, every time I picked her up I would get an erection. It had absolutely nothing to do with anything sexual and I still don't know why it happened.
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Old Dec 25, 2014, 03:01 AM
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You didn't act on it so Nope ! (:
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Old Dec 29, 2014, 12:05 PM
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A picture of a kid, not a real one, presumably.
You can get treatment if it is an issue, well done for being so brave and honest.
I checked out a picture of a boys legs. I didn't get an erection. So Im pretty sure Im not a pedophile.
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Old Jan 01, 2015, 06:34 PM
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It was probably random. Do you get Erections looking at children normally? Or was it just that once?
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Old Jan 02, 2015, 05:28 AM
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When I am on the street and randomly see a child I don't get an erection, if thats what you mean. So it was just that one time.
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Old Jan 05, 2015, 12:42 AM
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Yes. Then you're safe aha.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 07:54 AM
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Now that I think of it I can't really remember if I had an erection or not. I felt something happening in my pants but I didn't like put my hand in there to check if I had an erection… So i don't know. Do you guys know how I can determine if it was an erection or not? It might have been tingling (Gronial response).I also can't remember if I got a weird kind of good feeling or not. So what I am thinking is that I didn't get an erection and I didn't get a weird kind of good feeling. Feels good man.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 12:27 PM
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I think your over thinking this ...
As long as you don't act on your feelings then your fine

Example : It's like a person who enjoys watching horror movies , dose that mean they want to kill people in real life ?

No .. As long as they don't kill a person in real life then they are not a killer .

Do you see my point ?
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Old Jan 25, 2015, 07:46 AM
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i am now worried about being a non-exclusive pedo, i've gotten 20 erections off of gay porn the last week and a half, and 5 off of straight porn. when i fantasize about havin sex w women i get erections. i've gotten 2 erections off of justin biebers six pack (he's 20). i think boys are cute.. but i don't think im attracted to them. i dont have fantasies about em. if im a non-ex pedo i'm ok w it since i will have a man who im attracted to , yet it sucks ... what do u guys think?
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Old Jan 26, 2015, 11:06 AM
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bump......................
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Old Jan 26, 2015, 05:41 PM
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I honestly think you are reading to much into your sexual likes. Arousal to gay men/gay porn doesnt make one a pedophile. Neither does getting erections from a man's 6 pack, not when the man is of age. If you are not fantasizing about boys, then I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you are really concerned about this, you may think about talking to a therapist about your sexual confusion.
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Old Jan 26, 2015, 07:21 PM
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Pedophile? I don't think so... even when someone thinks about kids... it can be just intrusive thoughts.
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Old Feb 04, 2015, 08:48 PM
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well, you dont say how young young is because at 21 you are still young yourself. there is some leeway with the age bracket here. based on one incident, i would not jump to the conclusion that you are a pedophile when you cannot determine if it was a random erection or not. if this becomes a pattern or if you begin to have arousing thoughts about young boys, then you should consider seeking help.
Tbh boners happen for no reason sometimes. I mean it's not like you were thinking about touching the kid and like getting off on him or anything, right? Although you really should talk to someone, no concern should ever be brushed off
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