[Yismymindblank12]

So I figured, that if I went through with eventually get a sex change surgery. Sex would be so much different for me. Like I like being a guy, I like letting my stuff all hang out and do it's thing, but at the same time. I hate it, because I feel being a girl would be much more fun.

At the same time, I'm kinda not sure how it's going to feel, if my nerve endings are going to be outside in. How is it going to increase or decrease pleasure? I know they can do a clitoralplasty, but I don't know how that's going to work.

I'm skeptical about it, I mean if you are so used to being a guy, but then you get all that stuff changed around. Is it going to feel better or worse and how would you know if it feels like a vagina.

Like I had sex with girls, and know what to expect for myself, but I don't know if it's going to feel painful or more pleasurable?


That's my first question, my second one is. Would this cause my sexual preferences to change from hormones? Like am I going to embrace more sides I was curious, but really bring it out now I have something else to work with.

I don't know, but I came to that decision recently. I wanted to be a girl now.

Maybe in time after the post op stuff I'll be bisexual. I might try new things in a new perspective. It's what excited me the most about it.

[seraphic]

I don't know anything about surgery and how it affects having sex, but as for hormones, it's possible for your sexual preferences to change but it definitely isn't something that happens frequently, I believe. I've been taking hormones for over half a year now (though I'm on testosterone, not estrogen), and I'm pretty sure my orientation hasn't changed at all. I've heard of a few trans people whose orientation has changed during/after transition, but I don't know whether that is a result of hormones as opposed to having a new perspective because of transition, like you mentioned.

I saw your post last week about resources for transition - I'll PM you in a bit with a few links that might be helpful!

Hello Yismymindblank12: I read your post with interest. I'm an aging transgender person (MtF). However, I never transitioned & have lived a more-or-less normal male life (unfortunately.) So I can't really respond to your questions. There are certainly transsexual women out there who have had GRS surgery who could respond to your questions. They are on YouTube, on the various transgender websites & probably here on PC as well, I would presume.

With regard to the idea of wanting to be a girl... there is a thought I would like to offer you. Many years ago I read, in a magazine for writers, the statement that a writer writes because s/he has to... because, to not write, would be a denial of the very essence of who s/he is. Personally, I believe something similar could be said for transition. A person transitions because s/he must.. because to not do so would be a denial of the very essence of who s/he is. So, from that perspective questions about how sex will feel, or if it will be more pleasurable or painful, are to some extent beside the point. It is what it is. What is relevant is that in order to continue to live, I have to do this. (Of course, I haven't done it. So what does that say about me? I don't know.) Perhaps this is just idealistic claptrap, on my part. But it's how I view transition & I wanted to share my thoughts with you. My best wishes to you as you proceed. I am envious...

[Yismymindblank12]

There was something you said I really liked, and it made perfect sense. It's why I decided to go with it.