Do you talk about sex with your therapist?

I have made comments about sex with my husband to my therapist but I am to imbaristed or just not ready to open the childhood issues from the past.

I am unsure of how to handle such a conversation with my t or if I can even handle it.

Welcome Jeanette!

welcome to the forum, jeanette,

When you feel you are want ing to talk to your therapist about it. perhaps you can write him/her a letter. I find that helps me get started when there is a difficult conversation. Then eventually the words come. Be gentle.

I realize this is an old old old old old thread from 2007.... and it's 2012... so like, 5 friggan long years later.... but I wonder, do the therapist you talk to about sex the same gender as you?

I dont talk about sex with my current t

I wonder what they start to think when a client introduces into the session. And how do they get desensitized with tons of awkward topics during their medical school. Must be an awkwardly fun journey to become a professional.

I'm between therapists at the moment (been referred to Psych) but I've discussed my orientation (not necessarily sex, because there isn't much to say beyond "haven't had it, don't want it") with my last two; the first was a total bigot and said- amongst other things- that I should make it my life goal to settle down in a hetero relationship and have biokids and the second one, after being told categorically I wasn't taking any s*** on it, was ok with it but I don't remember us going too far into the topic.

Yes I do, it's always a very difficult topic, but sex (and thoughts about sex) are an important part of life, as difficult and embarrassing of a topic that sex is it’s important to talk about it.

Wow, read all comments from previous years to current year. Dnt have a therapist or know wher or how to get 1, bt I really need one, as I'm unsure and need help in several areas of my life. Have never been really intimate b4 n d closes was a rape somes years back. Sex has bn a major issue in my relationships, sometimes I want to bt wish for a perfect situation.

Yes. Being an older virgin is quite bothersome...it's a big theme in our talks. I badly want to experience what 99% of the adult population has already experienced, and yet I want everyone to stay the hell away from me. Great problem, eh?

No, and somehow that makes it easier.

Hmmmm really? I found both sexes awkward... like....

If I talk to a Female T, my experience with women in general, usually ask a lot of personal and intimate questions. Where I'm left going... Uhhhh..!

If I talk to a Male T, I get the opposite sex's opinion and what they experience as a person being of the opposite sex, but of course... it's awkward talking to the opposite sex.

BUT then again, both are awkward. What the heck!?

And how would a person bring it up? I mean, do you just walk in, sit down, say your "How are yous?" and then go straight into, "I want to talk about SEX!"

O_O... i don't see it happening.

Yes, when sex is an issue in my life I talk to my T about it. Wouldn't have been able to talk about it in my twenties into early thirties. Too much shame back them involved in me even thinking about it.