Intimacy

Okay so now I have tried to date both a girl and a guy and I just always screw up and I don't know if I really liked them as friends or if I was 'turned on'

I'm sick of not being able to say I'm bisexual or gay for three years now, I shouldn't been dealing with this by now.
Pretty sure I'm the worst human being on earth also because once I know they're onto me I treat them like trash and I don't know how to stop it ¿?

Hi,

Welcome to PC. I guess I have a simple question first...why don't you tell your potential partners that you are bisexual? You've only given a small bit of information, but it seems potentially that you have issues divulging this part of yourself, and that you're holding it between you and your partners.

Perhaps you need to be honest to both yourself and your partners about your sexuality, and being honest up front so that you don't have this secret eating you up. I've been bisexual my whole life, and I told my wife very early in our dating about my sexual past. It's been so much easier to be honest emotionally and sexually, knowing that she knows and she has still stayed with me for almost 20 years.

I hope this helps.

Well sometimes things just don't click. I think before you move to a more intimate level it sounds like you already know that you aren't sure about your own feelings. It may be best to take a step back and take an inventory to be sure you understand your own feelings first. It will make any relationship move more smoothly.

I don't quite understand this. Are you not turned on by the opposite sex and trying to be that way? In my opinion, be who you are and don't worry about what label it has. It's not dealing with anything, just be you and you'll have a better chance at happiness.

You're not even remotely the worst person on Earth. There's a lot worse out there. But like I mentioned before, it sounds like you're not confident in your own feelings. I would offer that you need to understand yourself and then your relationships will go much more smoothly.

Have things gotten any better for you?