New Here and wondering if this is normal..........

Ok, when you are talking sex, and I'm new here, I don't really know where to ask this. I just wish to know do you think this is normal. I think I have issues with other people having sex or sexually exressing. If I hear my neighbours having sex I feel threatened, scared, angry, and hurt. Sometimes I react with anger, before I yelled. It's actually traumatic for me. Yet everyone I know and my family react normally and don't really bother about it. They seem to be ok with that. Which also confuses me. I'm also confused when I see people on TV shows having sex in front of cameras not really fearing what would other people say, their parents, cousins, community. And then other people on that shows that are close to them and have no reaction what so ever! I don't understand. Also I would feel lot of guilt and shame if someone new I was having sex. So.....Is this normal? Or not? What do you think?

Welcome to Psych Central (PC) Atarxia Pistes. Glad you posted. PC has helped me find other people that can empathize with me and help provide insights and info. Go easy on yourself. Normal is a nonexistent state. One person's normal is another's aberration.

Sex may be overrated by many cultures with openly displayed sex, because behind the quest to find a lover is the need for emotional intimacy. Sex can be a way to connect physically but without emotional intimacy it can come up short in my experience. I often hear about people that endured some form of abuse when they were children having trouble feeling good about physical intimacy.

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