[silversurfer5150]

Hi there,

I am in my late 30s and have been suffering for longer than I can remember from profound shame and guilt relating to my sexual past, fantasies and hyper-sexuality. I have been a member on here in the past and had wonderful counselling off an excellent psychotherapist who nearly brought me through it but then our communication stopped and he didn't come back to the forums so I feel like what we started is unfinished.

I have also got a face to face therapist but I don't feel that I can relate the things to her that I can say anonymously on the internet. Please would someone help me and exchange a few private messages with me. My case is interesting and I am just a good person gone a bit haywire. I am outwardly very successful and often confident but my inner battle is deep and complex and I fight it every day alone, it is even hidden from my life partner.

I am deeply unhappy because I feel that I cant beat this alone and I know that there are some remarkable therapists out there who wont judge and probably have the solutions I am looking for.

Please PM me if interested. Thanks in advance.

[CANDC]

Welcome to Psych Central (PC) silversurfer. I am sorry to hear you have been suffering from memories of your past. Everyone on this site is a volunteer, not a trained therapist. If you are looking for a therapist there are many other resources available to you to help locate a therapist.

Not knowing your past, I cannot judge nor do I want to. Some people here discover after year of therapy they have been a victim of abuse. No one should have to live through that. Some people at PC will find a therapist will help them sort out the roots of their life. For me, childhood episodes waned in influence to the degree I released them and let go of the anger, hope for atonement from abuser, and urge for retribution. Letting go of these does not mean what you endured was right, it only means you finally decide to go on with your life and not be weighed down by these things anymore.

Many people find compassionate, caring people here at PC. Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

There are articles that go into more detail about coping
Psych Central - Search results for Surviving abuse

You are welcome to be an active member here at PC.