[Yismymindblank12]

As a dude I don't understand this. Like before I get so sprung up and extremely aroused I almost had sex yesterday, but honestly I didn't feel like it during everything building up. I felt more bored out of my mind hence why I take forever to finish during sex. Is this normal? Like my body shuts off feeling the highs from sex and delays it, but masturbation hasn't changed. Like I mean it's like waking up with morning wood you're not horny or nothing like the hormones all of it shut off...

I don't know what it means, but anyone with more knowledge on it may help thanks.

[CANDC]

Anxieties about sex often mask deeper hurts and wounds that are covered over with I am not into sex or other sayings.

There are many things that can diminish libido, alcohol and meds, emotional wounds, being overtired, being in a relationship with a demanding person that does not show love or affection, and many more.

It usually is not a problem with the body, it is usually in the realm of the mind or emotions. Have you talked to your therapist about how you feel during sex and explore what might be hiding under that?

[Yismymindblank12]

I'm 21, I was in shock and I didn't have sex with her our clothes weren't even off. I didn't want to, I stopped because I felt detached doing so. The act wouldn't help but enable me. It didn't give me happiness more
depravity like it has before with the girls I've dated and had sex with.
I will wednesday. For this situation, I found out the girl was 16 I wasn't aware of it till afterwards she told me 2 hours later, but her intentions were true she was very kind to me regardless of my rejection and being firm with myself.

She didn't deceive, I was just unaware she was being naive and drug me into something I wasn't aware of, I felt vulnerable, because of my age I didn't like being in that position I didn't know her to well, she and I met before she was madly attracted to me as in a high school infatuation crush, but I admired her wits and self discipline being very genuine and kind she was made me feel secure.
We are just friends how this ended. I told her, she said, "I'm very sorry you didn't act like the other guys and forced it on me and I wanted to be close to you and I won't speak of this again and we can forget about it. You're right let's be friends." She was very understanding, I needed that in my life.
We connected as friends not through that, but when she told me of her experience of being a recent rape victim she clinged to me like my last gf did when she was raped before by a boy of a female friend of hers my ex reacted the same way. I am very understanding with girls, because I am a rape victim myself. I do not shame them nor do I shame myself, but take responsibility when I'm aware. So yes, I'm friends with her, and no I will not ever do anything with her again any time soon, but she was so kind to me.

She's given me hope of something new. I trust her as a friend, but our physical stuff stays completely cut off for good reason. I told her it's dangerous to just hook up with any guy and trust him at will, it's foolish not daring. Yes risks come with everything, but I made those risks and I've trust too many people and been hurt so badly, sex is nothing to me. I feel no pleasure except the thought of it. When doing it, I feel empty, like how I felt my whole life when people ridiculed and shamed me publicly humiliated in a whole town for being a homosexual or pedophile when I was 6. These accusations came from my rapists parents they spread the rumors that my parents were thieves and want to harm the reputation of their children and I'm a bully and a freak of nature.

I wasn't making this up all my life, I've seen cruelty and evil and it hides in the good of others. So when I feel pleasure it only comes in the emptiness the lack of care I received when I needed it most, because I was a boy not a girl my voice was not heard in the year of 2001 the years before that. Many days, I want justice and many days intimacy is hell with anyone because people only want to harm me when they want to get close they want something to take for their own selfishness and want to use it to make harm not good out of it.

I had 4 rapists in my life, and I was wrapped to being promiscuous and curious at too early of an age. I felt shame not mostly from my own mind it was from being blamed for being the bad kid that black sheep the piece of **** punk everyone didn't like, just because two parents wanted to protect their sons reputation for his crimes. He didn't suffer one bit he has a family two kids and I'm still scared damaged to a huge degree. It's made all intimate relationships hell and my gender identity and body image blurry and difficult.

It wasn't one time, it was extended for so many years. Being tortured doesn't leave you physically sexually and mentally, ptsd never leaves. You have to be forced to accept and deal with it. I don't take it out on others never have never will, but everyone takes things out on me and I won't fight back anymore. I never get in fights, I work out a lot to feel intimidating and play as such, but my strength isn't in force period it's taking force and shame from others and surviving it shoving it back in others faces who seen that they are wrong they harmed me.

I also told her, I will only have sex with females at the age of 20 and over for two reasons years of possibly emotional maturity and older females.

I've strived for a genuine relationship. I will not search for it in areas that aren't suitable for that. She's too young, she'll get too wrapped up in the ideologies of love, she's smart and witty, but not stupid, she is inexperienced that's all. That's why I won't date her period, I never told her I wanted to date her because it's true, not to be mean or harmful, but I need to be firm that I will not dragged into another pit of hell trusting someone and something goes bad, besides there are plenty of girls out there. I have plenty of time. It didn't hurt my feelings neither it did hers, I felt very uncomfortable, because I found out and was unaware, and that outcome could of been much worse if I continued to make it like it's a relationship more than friends.

[Yismymindblank12]

It took me so long to realize to feel comfortable that wanting to be a woman is ok and that no one will take my past as use it as an example as me as a failure. My transgenderism came before then also did my empathy for realizing everyone is a victim of something the true friends are the fellow survivors who venture with you as good companions and guides on your life journey you don't need to give them gifts they value you and your presence.

that's the people I cherish.