I know this is not a dating site and I am not seeking out that with my headline here, I am being some what ironical with that statement. I am so messed up when it comes to love it is not even funny. I broke it off with a woman who I was supposed to marry back in August, at the end of July, we had only known each other since January. Then I fooled around with one of our mutual friends just for the thrill of it. And I have been trying to explore a new relationship with someone who is into BDSM, like I am. On top of all that I am bi so I wouldn't mind checking that side of my life out. It has been two years since my divorce and I need to have a companion, I have "friends" but no one to be close too and it sucks. I live vicariously through peoples stories or fantasize about my therapists. I hate online dating, because they cost money and I really don't trust CL. UGH

[~Christina]

Have you looked into local " meet ups " in your area? Most are groups of people that have similar interests. Book clubs, Volunteering is a good way to get out and meet people, maybe you wont meet the "One" but friendships are also wonderful. You never know who friend A or B might know that could be the "right one" for you .

There is a difference between wanting and needing a relationship.. Are you okay about yourself and want to enjoy life with someone, or do you think you need someone to have a life? Just something to think about.
Good luck

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Have you looked into local " meet ups " in your area? Most are groups of people that have similar interests. Book clubs, Volunteering is a good way to get out and meet people, maybe you wont meet the "One" but friendships are also wonderful. You never know who friend A or B might know that could be the "right one" for you .

There is a difference between wanting and needing a relationship.. Are you okay about yourself and want to enjoy life with someone, or do you think you need someone to have a life? Just something to think about.
Good luck

Christina, After being alone so long, I am ready to move on, I want someone to enjoy life with and be with. Thank you so much, I don't want the emptiness that comes with just "being with someone" because I think I need them. I miss that partnership and intimacy that a real relationship has to offer.

[Artchic528]

You have to love yourself before you can love another. I would take this wonderful opportunity to work on that. Good luck!

When I posted this it was a bit tongue in cheek. I really do care about myself and I am working hard towards recovery. I don't want to jump into anything by all means, not again. I want to take it nice and easy but I would like to have a relationship that involves the intimacy that only two close people can share and not be just a friend. And no I don't mean sex, I know what true intimacy is. Lol